im am still frustrated by the comments and suggestions thath i am getting. it seems that women are put into catagories. what i mean about that is that we have to be menopausal with low libido which i dont have and im not menopausal. i love sex. i have no loss of libido. i am not on antidepressants so i will be excluded from trying viagra for those reasons. i know because i have tried to get in a clinical research study. i know that i have decreased sensation because i know my body and it has changed. i tried a testosterone cream but when you put it down there it is like putting vasaline down there. the sensation is better but i have all this unnatural lubrication (oil based) that doesnt feel right. basically there is no friction so it defeats the purpose. i cant afford the eros, it is $375 dollars. that bothers me because insurance will cover a penis pump for men. my insurance co. stated that the eros was a conveinence (toy) and wouldnt cover it. the doctor reluctantly will agree to test my testosterone level but told me there is no treatment available anyway so it is not useful. the doctor suggested astroglide. i have not tried it yet. i used a tingling cream and was sore for a week. my boyfriend and i have seperated now because he said he feels that it takes too much time to get me aroused and he doesnt feel the problem will be corrected with him so he is the 2nd man that has bailed out of the relationship with me. he said his last girlfriend never had a problem which i have heard before. i am a very pretty woman, i have been told and also very sexual but when i gently ask them to take more time they are insulted and i have been very careful not to be negative or demanding to them. i am now alone and i think it will always be an issue so i have backed off and am not having relationships because i feel defeated. im embarrased about using toys in front of them and alot of guys are insulted by that (not being able to be the one that can give me an orgasm). my doctor feels estrgen is not right for me because i dont need it yet. i have never tried zestra. really at this point i am really ready to give up. thats why i just dont feel like having sex anymore, it is basically to please the man, by the time i get aroused it is over. i also think to be in a clinical trial besides the exclusions you have to have a partner. i think the viagra studies on men did not have that exclusion. i am a nurse and the doctor that i work with will ask a man if he has any sexual difficulties but it is not part of a womens assessment because there is no treatment. by the time and it ever happens that a treatment is available i will not benefit because i will be too old and be cosidered not worth treating. i am a little jaded from the lack of concern from the so called experts. i went for a visit with a counseler and she wanted to know all about my childhood and not get down to business. by the way i have never had an abusive situation or rape. i had a great childhood. i stopped going. when i was in my 20s and 30s i had alot of sensation down there. i am 40, not old but i feel i could be helped. i am well adjusted so you see, now i think you have all the information, do i sound like i am completlely "broken"? i dont think ao. i know this is a long message but i wanted to give all the facts. i dont know really why i wrote it probably to get it off my chest because i really have given up on it and am working on accepting that my sex life it pretty much over.
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im am still frustrated by the comments and suggestions thath i am getting. it seems that women are put into catagories. what i mean about that is that we have to be menopausal with low libido which i dont have and im not menopausal. i love sex. i have no loss of libido. i am not on antidepressants so i will be excluded from trying viagra for those reasons. i know because i have tried to get in a clinical research study. i know that i have decreased sensation because i know my body and it has changed. i tried a testosterone cream but when you put it down there it is like putting vasaline down there. the sensation is better but i have all this unnatural lubrication (oil based) that doesnt feel right. basically there is no friction so it defeats the purpose. i cant afford the eros, it is $375 dollars. that bothers me because insurance will cover a penis pump for men. my insurance co. stated that the eros was a conveinence (toy) and wouldnt cover it. the doctor reluctantly will agree to test my testosterone level but told me there is no treatment available anyway so it is not useful. the doctor suggested astroglide. i have not tried it yet. i used a tingling cream and was sore for a week. my boyfriend and i have seperated now because he said he feels that it takes too much time to get me aroused and he doesnt feel the problem will be corrected with him so he is the 2nd man that has bailed out of the relationship with me. he said his last girlfriend never had a problem which i have heard before. i am a very pretty woman, i have been told and also very sexual but when i gently ask them to take more time they are insulted and i have been very careful not to be negative or demanding to them. i am now alone and i think it will always be an issue so i have backed off and am not having relationships because i feel defeated. im embarrased about using toys in front of them and alot of guys are insulted by that (not being able to be the one that can give me an orgasm). my doctor feels estrgen is not right for me because i dont need it yet. i have never tried zestra. really at this point i am really ready to give up. thats why i just dont feel like having sex anymore, it is basically to please the man, by the time i get aroused it is over. i also think to be in a clinical trial besides the exclusions you have to have a partner. i think the viagra studies on men did not have that exclusion. i am a nurse and the doctor that i work with will ask a man if he has any sexual difficulties but it is not part of a womens assessment because there is no treatment. by the time and it ever happens that a treatment is available i will not benefit because i will be too old and be cosidered not worth treating. i am a little jaded from the lack of concern from the so called experts. i went for a visit with a counseler and she wanted to know all about my childhood and not get down to business. by the way i have never had an abusive situation or rape. i had a great childhood. i stopped going. when i was in my 20s and 30s i had alot of sensation down there. i am 40, not old but i feel i could be helped. i am well adjusted so you see, now i think you have all the information, do i sound like i am completlely "broken"? i dont think ao. i know this is a long message but i wanted to give all the facts. i dont know really why i wrote it probably to get it off my chest because i really have given up on it and am working on accepting that my sex life it pretty much over.
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