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Hi, I understand how your daughter may be feeling at the moment. When I went through puberty I also lost the sleekness of my hair and gained a huge frizz which looks as if I have been electricuted! I didn't know how to deal with it as I grew up as my mum has alopecia and so doesn't know much about hair!! I used to wear it in a bun, slicked back and pulled tight covered in hairspray so no one would see it! Hairdressers used to say to me "oh my god!!! That is THE frizziest hair I have ever seen!!!" and didn't know what to do with it. They would often blow dry and then straighten it and I ended up leaving the hairdressers with crazy looking hair and lower self esteem each time to the point I developed a bit of a phobia of hairdressers!!!

However, all is not lost! I now love my hair to pieces and have just had to learn to accept it for what it is! Through experimenting with hair products and pushing myself to find a decent hairdresser, and also knowing how to talk to the hairdresser so they listen to me I have learnt how to manage the frizz so now the only thing I hear is "wow, your hair is goregous, I wish I had hair like yours!" and I always think to myself "not if you knew how much effort and stress it has caused me over the years!!" ha ha!

I would advise some tips for your daughter though:

1. Never let heat get near your hair, hairdryers, straighteners, curlers only make it worse! And if she can stand it wash her hair in cold water. For me the frizz seems to develop because of changes in heat.

2. Always use a LOT of products! Do not listen to hair dressers, it may be bad for those lucky enough to not have frizzy hair, but for us it is essential!! I used to use pantene curly hair mousse and swore by it for years but found that it often caused white flaky bits which looked like dandruff! Now I use one of the tigi products called CURLS ROCK, it is almost like a gel. Just put a blob on the palm of your hand and rub between both hands and then pull through her hair. It seems to create a layer on the surface of the hair which stops the hair drying out so much. I DEFINITELY recommend!!!! However she must experiment to find what works for her!!

3. Lastly, if you do go to the hairdressers, get them to cut it wet, and the leave it. Your daughter will learn how best to use products and it's unlikely they will be able to offer her any useable advice. I tend to put it in a bun, leave and sort it out at home. This stops any embaressment by well meaning hairdressers who don't understand!!

I apologise for waffling on but I was extremely embaressed by my hair as a teenager and I would hate for anyone to feel that way about themeselves when there are things you can do to sort it. I hope this helps you somewhat!

J x

November 23, 2009 - 8:25am

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