I saw the Rev. Ed Young on one of the morning "news" shows, and the funny thing is: he and his wife also tried the 7-day challenge...and they didn't make it! He said that he received so much publicity for this particular sermon, that by day 5 he was too exhausted to have sex.
I don't think this is a one-size-fits-all method, so it may work for some couples, but it could also become more frustrating for others. I assume the couples it could work for are those who simply have changed their priorities from each other to chores, TV-watching, computer-using, book-reading or child-rearing duties in the evening. I can see where a mandate of sex for them would help reconnect, and hopefully help them re- prioritize what is important.
However, those couples who have communication issues, or are struggling with infidelity, or an entire list of other marital problems, may not be suited for 7-days of sex until they can work on some communication issues. Can you image having sex with a person who does not communicate well, or does not respect your wishes? How are they going to be respectful and communicative in bed; I think sex could just magnify some of these problems.
I'm also curious about the long-term effects. (I wonder if this is something that could be studied and researched?). The couples who claimed "more intimacy" between them: does this intimacy last after they no longer are having the mandated sex? Was it the sex that brought on the intimacy, or having a goal together or merely having something in common again (a "teacher-type" figure in their lives; kind of the common enemy idea. Remember in school, when the teacher would give you an assignment, how you bonded with the other classmates over this "stupid assignment"?!). Are there different types of intimacy, and does this one create the illusion of intimacy or a superficial intimacy that disappears quickly? I'm just really curious about this, and I think if it works for couples...then what a great method!
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I saw the Rev. Ed Young on one of the morning "news" shows, and the funny thing is: he and his wife also tried the 7-day challenge...and they didn't make it! He said that he received so much publicity for this particular sermon, that by day 5 he was too exhausted to have sex.
I don't think this is a one-size-fits-all method, so it may work for some couples, but it could also become more frustrating for others. I assume the couples it could work for are those who simply have changed their priorities from each other to chores, TV-watching, computer-using, book-reading or child-rearing duties in the evening. I can see where a mandate of sex for them would help reconnect, and hopefully help them re- prioritize what is important.
However, those couples who have communication issues, or are struggling with infidelity, or an entire list of other marital problems, may not be suited for 7-days of sex until they can work on some communication issues. Can you image having sex with a person who does not communicate well, or does not respect your wishes? How are they going to be respectful and communicative in bed; I think sex could just magnify some of these problems.
I'm also curious about the long-term effects. (I wonder if this is something that could be studied and researched?). The couples who claimed "more intimacy" between them: does this intimacy last after they no longer are having the mandated sex? Was it the sex that brought on the intimacy, or having a goal together or merely having something in common again (a "teacher-type" figure in their lives; kind of the common enemy idea. Remember in school, when the teacher would give you an assignment, how you bonded with the other classmates over this "stupid assignment"?!). Are there different types of intimacy, and does this one create the illusion of intimacy or a superficial intimacy that disappears quickly? I'm just really curious about this, and I think if it works for couples...then what a great method!
November 23, 2008 - 6:40amThis Comment
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