Joanna,
What a wonderful idea! I wish someone would have been available to me, to discuss a vaginal birth experience. For some reason, when you are pregnant and most wanting information, the "extreme" people are the ones who come out of the woodwork and tell you what you need to do, what you MUST do, rather than provide all the options and scenarios.
For me personally, I was interested in learning about birthing options that did not entail an epidural, but wanted pain relievers if needed. The only information I found was black and white: either I could have a calm, "real", natural birth...or...I could have one of those "un-natural", drugged births! HA! Simply by naming one type of birthing experience as "natural" lends ALL other experiences no other name but "UN"-natural.
I was not wanting a "natural" birth for all of the "moral" reasons (why is it a moral dilemma, anyways??), but I was honestly just scared of a huge needle going into my back, and wanted to know other options. I was just told vaguely that there are some drugs available, but never knew which kind (I wanted to look them up, so I'd have some knowledge or choice).
There are so many experiences and options in-between the two black & white scenarios above, including not labeling one experience as bad (or "un" natural) and the other option as "the only" ideal option (or, as I was told: you do have options, but the best one is if you want to have a healthy drug-free newborn...who doesn't want that?! That is not an option, and then it also means ALL C-section births are drugged and un-natural. It's really awful what we say to women!).
Anyways, thanks for allowing women to ask you about your experience. I am not personally planning for a c-section (I'm not pregnant yet!), but I would love to hear your experience!
Comment Reply
Joanna,
What a wonderful idea! I wish someone would have been available to me, to discuss a vaginal birth experience. For some reason, when you are pregnant and most wanting information, the "extreme" people are the ones who come out of the woodwork and tell you what you need to do, what you MUST do, rather than provide all the options and scenarios.
For me personally, I was interested in learning about birthing options that did not entail an epidural, but wanted pain relievers if needed. The only information I found was black and white: either I could have a calm, "real", natural birth...or...I could have one of those "un-natural", drugged births! HA! Simply by naming one type of birthing experience as "natural" lends ALL other experiences no other name but "UN"-natural.
I was not wanting a "natural" birth for all of the "moral" reasons (why is it a moral dilemma, anyways??), but I was honestly just scared of a huge needle going into my back, and wanted to know other options. I was just told vaguely that there are some drugs available, but never knew which kind (I wanted to look them up, so I'd have some knowledge or choice).
There are so many experiences and options in-between the two black & white scenarios above, including not labeling one experience as bad (or "un" natural) and the other option as "the only" ideal option (or, as I was told: you do have options, but the best one is if you want to have a healthy drug-free newborn...who doesn't want that?! That is not an option, and then it also means ALL C-section births are drugged and un-natural. It's really awful what we say to women!).
Anyways, thanks for allowing women to ask you about your experience. I am not personally planning for a c-section (I'm not pregnant yet!), but I would love to hear your experience!
December 30, 2008 - 2:26pmThis Comment
Reply