Our teen is 18 and has an issue with respect with leads to the communication issues. My stepdaughter and has lived with us for 9 years and has been taught by her mother that she is equal to everyone around her (including her dad & I) and we don't agree with it at all. Her mom is her buddy and we are trying to be the parents. I know this opens up a bigger can of worms but we just don't know how to reach out to her anymore. If we try to start a conversation with her it's like pulling teeth just to get her to say or share anything that is going on in her world. I wish I knew what the underlying problem was (we couldn't get it out of her when we were going to a counselor either). I know she is angry just don't know why or at who - she won't talk to us about it.
If we don't make the effort to talk to her then she feels like we don't care. So we are damned if we do and damned if we don't. This of course effects are other children because if older sis can act that way then so can they.
She will be moving out soon but until then not sure how to handle the situation without going crazy. Thanks for responding to my post and providing the websites. How do you deal with someone who doesn't want to talk to you & they live in your home???
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Our teen is 18 and has an issue with respect with leads to the communication issues. My stepdaughter and has lived with us for 9 years and has been taught by her mother that she is equal to everyone around her (including her dad & I) and we don't agree with it at all. Her mom is her buddy and we are trying to be the parents. I know this opens up a bigger can of worms but we just don't know how to reach out to her anymore. If we try to start a conversation with her it's like pulling teeth just to get her to say or share anything that is going on in her world. I wish I knew what the underlying problem was (we couldn't get it out of her when we were going to a counselor either). I know she is angry just don't know why or at who - she won't talk to us about it.
If we don't make the effort to talk to her then she feels like we don't care. So we are damned if we do and damned if we don't. This of course effects are other children because if older sis can act that way then so can they.
She will be moving out soon but until then not sure how to handle the situation without going crazy. Thanks for responding to my post and providing the websites. How do you deal with someone who doesn't want to talk to you & they live in your home???
January 5, 2009 - 6:35pmThis Comment
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