I feel bad about all these stories both sides. My wife has RA and all but gave up. After years of doing more than my fair share and feeling unappreciated. Her depression, and laying around being waited on hand and foot with sparks of effort here and there, I stepped out. It was wrong, my fault and recovery has been arduous.
My issue is after constant battles and her possessive ways, (which i don't blame her for) i feel enough is enough. I don't have much left. my youth has been wasted and as much as i tell her she doesn't have it as bad and as severe as some people she plays her disease on me and the family as if it is terminal.
When ever i have had enough, she does for her self. Gets around and contributes and then uses that as a "see i am trying" or "when i try i get worse" She is over weight and that helps contribute and compound her issues. Which is now leg nerve issues, lung issues, blood pressure. She doesn't take her meds like she should and eat properly. I eventually made her responsible for those things because i got weary of nagging but to no avail. I am tired. I have expressed this and usually get band-aid efforts. I never considered leaving until now. Am i wrong?
(I recognize there are 2 sides to every issue but i am tired of being pragmatic, diplomatic and sacrificing for others to feel good about themselves. Especially when the effort doesn't appear to be of one who claims to love with all there heart those who are taking care of them.)
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I feel bad about all these stories both sides. My wife has RA and all but gave up. After years of doing more than my fair share and feeling unappreciated. Her depression, and laying around being waited on hand and foot with sparks of effort here and there, I stepped out. It was wrong, my fault and recovery has been arduous.
My issue is after constant battles and her possessive ways, (which i don't blame her for) i feel enough is enough. I don't have much left. my youth has been wasted and as much as i tell her she doesn't have it as bad and as severe as some people she plays her disease on me and the family as if it is terminal.
When ever i have had enough, she does for her self. Gets around and contributes and then uses that as a "see i am trying" or "when i try i get worse" She is over weight and that helps contribute and compound her issues. Which is now leg nerve issues, lung issues, blood pressure. She doesn't take her meds like she should and eat properly. I eventually made her responsible for those things because i got weary of nagging but to no avail. I am tired. I have expressed this and usually get band-aid efforts. I never considered leaving until now. Am i wrong?
(I recognize there are 2 sides to every issue but i am tired of being pragmatic, diplomatic and sacrificing for others to feel good about themselves. Especially when the effort doesn't appear to be of one who claims to love with all there heart those who are taking care of them.)
December 31, 2011 - 12:18pmThis Comment
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