Wow! There are a lot of us, aren't there? I am 46 and a newlywed. My husband and I have been married for a few months. He was diagnosed with cancer 2 weeks after we said "I do". Since then our relationship/marriage has taken a nose dive.
He lashes out about every little thing. Directs his aggression towards me but then tells me not to take it personally. He complains constantly and is always angry. When I tell him that he makes me feel bad, he says that I always make everything about me.
I walk on eggshells constantly. Even during the good times; he will unexpectedly turn on me. He was not like this at all before the diagnosis.
And to compound the issue we've only been living together since the wedding. So we have the cancer to contend with as well as getting used to cohabiting.
I am sad and scared! He has only just started treatment. THE HARD PART HASN'T EVEN BEGUN! and I am ready to throw in towel!
He has already prepped me; saying, with treatment, he may become depressed and distant and is concerned about how I will react.
I feel like a cannot win! I try and be understanding and sympathetic. I do everything around the house. I work full time (I have to keep the insurance). And have a teenage daughter. I cannot tell any friends or family that after only a few months of marriage, I am ready to leave my husband with cancer.
I feel stuck, lonely and very sad.
Lately all I feel like doing is vomiting and crying.
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Wow! There are a lot of us, aren't there? I am 46 and a newlywed. My husband and I have been married for a few months. He was diagnosed with cancer 2 weeks after we said "I do". Since then our relationship/marriage has taken a nose dive.
He lashes out about every little thing. Directs his aggression towards me but then tells me not to take it personally. He complains constantly and is always angry. When I tell him that he makes me feel bad, he says that I always make everything about me.
I walk on eggshells constantly. Even during the good times; he will unexpectedly turn on me. He was not like this at all before the diagnosis.
And to compound the issue we've only been living together since the wedding. So we have the cancer to contend with as well as getting used to cohabiting.
I am sad and scared! He has only just started treatment. THE HARD PART HASN'T EVEN BEGUN! and I am ready to throw in towel!
September 19, 2014 - 5:34pmHe has already prepped me; saying, with treatment, he may become depressed and distant and is concerned about how I will react.
I feel like a cannot win! I try and be understanding and sympathetic. I do everything around the house. I work full time (I have to keep the insurance). And have a teenage daughter. I cannot tell any friends or family that after only a few months of marriage, I am ready to leave my husband with cancer.
I feel stuck, lonely and very sad.
Lately all I feel like doing is vomiting and crying.
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