I'm looking for advice too although I am in the reverse of this situation. I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome which was very manageable until I fell pregnant, at which my body fell apart. As a result, I have been left a whole host of other issues so my husband and I have both had to quit our jobs, me because I struggle with day to day things and him to look after me and our daughter. But I feel trapped and often wonder if I even want to be with him anymore.
I love him, I do, but he doesn't get me or my illness and he's really not cut out to be a carer. Before I met him, I knew where things like my keys and bank cards were but since my illness, most of the time I have no clue as I never need them and he has a tendency to move them around. I get really stressed out which worsens my condition especially as he always blames me for him moving them or doesn't remember moving them at all.
On top of this I feel like I get no co-operation from him when it comes to meals and money. Having spent so long with mobility issues, I have gained a lot of weight. I desperately need to lose it as it doesn't help me get better and I have been refused treatment because of it. He provides all our meals and he appears to be unwilling to do any changes that would enable me to lose weight. To the point where he is barely cooking and either ordering us take-aways or dragging us to restaurants. When he does cook, he never takes into consideration my medical dietry restrictions and will rarely cook vegetables.
I don't particularly want to be apart from him, but I often feel for my own health and benefit that I cannot stay. On the same note, I feel I cannot leave. I wouldn't easily manage our daughter and he's made it very clear that should be ever split he would fight for sole custody. I definitely don't want to live separately from her and I worry about her well being if I wasn't there to try and even out the bits he can't be bothered to do.
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I'm looking for advice too although I am in the reverse of this situation. I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome which was very manageable until I fell pregnant, at which my body fell apart. As a result, I have been left a whole host of other issues so my husband and I have both had to quit our jobs, me because I struggle with day to day things and him to look after me and our daughter. But I feel trapped and often wonder if I even want to be with him anymore.
I love him, I do, but he doesn't get me or my illness and he's really not cut out to be a carer. Before I met him, I knew where things like my keys and bank cards were but since my illness, most of the time I have no clue as I never need them and he has a tendency to move them around. I get really stressed out which worsens my condition especially as he always blames me for him moving them or doesn't remember moving them at all.
On top of this I feel like I get no co-operation from him when it comes to meals and money. Having spent so long with mobility issues, I have gained a lot of weight. I desperately need to lose it as it doesn't help me get better and I have been refused treatment because of it. He provides all our meals and he appears to be unwilling to do any changes that would enable me to lose weight. To the point where he is barely cooking and either ordering us take-aways or dragging us to restaurants. When he does cook, he never takes into consideration my medical dietry restrictions and will rarely cook vegetables.
I don't particularly want to be apart from him, but I often feel for my own health and benefit that I cannot stay. On the same note, I feel I cannot leave. I wouldn't easily manage our daughter and he's made it very clear that should be ever split he would fight for sole custody. I definitely don't want to live separately from her and I worry about her well being if I wasn't there to try and even out the bits he can't be bothered to do.
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