I left my abusive, violent, alcoholic and disabled spouse when we were both 70. I was planning to leave him years before, had already left once and went back, and he had a stroke before I could get my plans in place to leave for good. Caregiving a mean alcoholic man for two years like I did is hell. He refused to support me financially. He called me filthy names before and after the stroke for no reason at all. Just out of the blue he'd start in. He ranted, raved, yelled at the TV as well as me. I took care of and maintained a large house all by myself. Fixed the toilets, replaced faucets, removed snakes from the swimming pool, because he refused to hire someone to do those things. I could not afford to hire the person with my money because my income was 1/6 of my husband's and all of it went to pay our mortgage, food, other needs. He canceled his life insurance that would have benefitted me if he died. He wanted me to sign over my rights to our marital home so that his kids would inherit it - and I'd paid half the down payment and my share of mortgage payments. Oh, and I would be allowed to live in it after he kicked off as long as I paid for insurance, maintenance, mortgage, and everything else concerning the house. Then his kids get what I have paid for. I left and have no regrets even though I agonized over the decision. As far as I'm concerned he broke his marriage vows first by not loving, honoring or cherishing me, and he had no intention of ever doing so or providing for me as the Bible instructs. If you can get out of a situation where your spouse is destroying you and everything you hold dear, GO. They are evil and don't deserve your sacrifice.
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I left my abusive, violent, alcoholic and disabled spouse when we were both 70. I was planning to leave him years before, had already left once and went back, and he had a stroke before I could get my plans in place to leave for good. Caregiving a mean alcoholic man for two years like I did is hell. He refused to support me financially. He called me filthy names before and after the stroke for no reason at all. Just out of the blue he'd start in. He ranted, raved, yelled at the TV as well as me. I took care of and maintained a large house all by myself. Fixed the toilets, replaced faucets, removed snakes from the swimming pool, because he refused to hire someone to do those things. I could not afford to hire the person with my money because my income was 1/6 of my husband's and all of it went to pay our mortgage, food, other needs. He canceled his life insurance that would have benefitted me if he died. He wanted me to sign over my rights to our marital home so that his kids would inherit it - and I'd paid half the down payment and my share of mortgage payments. Oh, and I would be allowed to live in it after he kicked off as long as I paid for insurance, maintenance, mortgage, and everything else concerning the house. Then his kids get what I have paid for. I left and have no regrets even though I agonized over the decision. As far as I'm concerned he broke his marriage vows first by not loving, honoring or cherishing me, and he had no intention of ever doing so or providing for me as the Bible instructs. If you can get out of a situation where your spouse is destroying you and everything you hold dear, GO. They are evil and don't deserve your sacrifice.
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