Thanks for your response. I looked for (and found) an apartment yesterday which is very nice and reasonably priced. I then put some furniture on layway (I didn't know that you could do that!) in order to start to get ready for the inevitable split coming up. He is aware that I am not happy and do not intend on staying, but is currently trying to be as sweet as can be to once again get me to think things will be better. I think that he loves us, he just can't act like it anymore. And when he does, it's forced and faked. I'm tired of pretending, I'm tired of not having a partner and I'm tired of the constant stress. The apartment that I found is right arround the corner so, that will help him with visitation (since I'm going to be driving) and my little boy is comfortable with this area. His school will be the same and I won't have to change to many things in his life. His surgery is scheduled for next week. I figure in about 4-6 weeks he'll have healed enough that we can leave. I want to be reasonable for all of us. I won't keep my spouse from seeing his son, but joint custody is out of the question since he sees nothing wrong with not putting our son into his carseat, has a short fuse and feels the need to keep a large dog that has bitten our son in the face. I realize that I will need to be somewhat flexible when it comes to visitation based on my husband's illness. I hope to be able to include him in school events and extracuricular activity, but we'll see because it will depend on how everything plays out.
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Thanks for your response. I looked for (and found) an apartment yesterday which is very nice and reasonably priced. I then put some furniture on layway (I didn't know that you could do that!) in order to start to get ready for the inevitable split coming up. He is aware that I am not happy and do not intend on staying, but is currently trying to be as sweet as can be to once again get me to think things will be better. I think that he loves us, he just can't act like it anymore. And when he does, it's forced and faked. I'm tired of pretending, I'm tired of not having a partner and I'm tired of the constant stress. The apartment that I found is right arround the corner so, that will help him with visitation (since I'm going to be driving) and my little boy is comfortable with this area. His school will be the same and I won't have to change to many things in his life. His surgery is scheduled for next week. I figure in about 4-6 weeks he'll have healed enough that we can leave. I want to be reasonable for all of us. I won't keep my spouse from seeing his son, but joint custody is out of the question since he sees nothing wrong with not putting our son into his carseat, has a short fuse and feels the need to keep a large dog that has bitten our son in the face. I realize that I will need to be somewhat flexible when it comes to visitation based on my husband's illness. I hope to be able to include him in school events and extracuricular activity, but we'll see because it will depend on how everything plays out.
January 21, 2010 - 4:25pmThis Comment
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