Hi all...it's me Nicole the original writer. It's been almost 2 weeks since I left my spouse. He filed for divorce first (not surprising since he has always had this need to control me). He is trying to obtain joint custody with he being the one to maintain physical custody of our son, and me to receive visitation as required by law. I've tried to rationalize with him that he is not well enough to care for a 4 yr old active boy, but he plans on fighting me tooth and nail. He is suing for custody, alimony, child support and legal expenses. He hired a criminal defense attorney who called me on Saturday morning screaming at me that I was threatening my spouse for not letting him have 4 overnights this week. I submitted a proposal for visitation to include Monday to Friday 3pm -5pm (after school), Wednesday overnight and one overnight on the weekend. He refused it and is supposedly going to offer me another option (I'm sure it will be assanine). He is unable to care for our son 24hrs per day, much less for days upon a time. He's going to make this hell. My son and I are staying at my parents house until Sunday and then I will be moving into my apartment. I've had to buy all new furniture and household items, but that's fine. I feel like even though everything is a bit of a mess, that things are looking up. I feel at peace with my decision. I've had days that I've cried, but not out of despair...mostly fear when it relates to custody. I know that I'm going to be in a much better situation.
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Hi all...it's me Nicole the original writer. It's been almost 2 weeks since I left my spouse. He filed for divorce first (not surprising since he has always had this need to control me). He is trying to obtain joint custody with he being the one to maintain physical custody of our son, and me to receive visitation as required by law. I've tried to rationalize with him that he is not well enough to care for a 4 yr old active boy, but he plans on fighting me tooth and nail. He is suing for custody, alimony, child support and legal expenses. He hired a criminal defense attorney who called me on Saturday morning screaming at me that I was threatening my spouse for not letting him have 4 overnights this week. I submitted a proposal for visitation to include Monday to Friday 3pm -5pm (after school), Wednesday overnight and one overnight on the weekend. He refused it and is supposedly going to offer me another option (I'm sure it will be assanine). He is unable to care for our son 24hrs per day, much less for days upon a time. He's going to make this hell. My son and I are staying at my parents house until Sunday and then I will be moving into my apartment. I've had to buy all new furniture and household items, but that's fine. I feel like even though everything is a bit of a mess, that things are looking up. I feel at peace with my decision. I've had days that I've cried, but not out of despair...mostly fear when it relates to custody. I know that I'm going to be in a much better situation.
February 17, 2010 - 5:26pmThis Comment
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