I too am going through the same thing. I am a healthy 36 year old female who married a man with MS. Things were fine until his oldest got pregnant at age 16 and he had a replasp. Now he has more cognitive issues then physical from the MS and because of that he had to go back on disability. He does some housework but can't do much because he also has heart disease that cannot be fixed with surgery. He has stopped all health care and meds, deals with, sometimes massive chest pains daily and does not take his nitro for them. He too can be extrememly demeaning and down right hateful. He hates his body, his life, etc so it's hard to love anyone when he's so busy hating himself. I also struggle with the thought of leaving him but so far have stayed. All the understanding his issues only gets me so far, then I'm to the point of who's understanding me?!? If I left him, he has all day to make my life hell if he wanted to and since his body and brain are just getting sicker I can't trust an emotionally unstable, physically sick man to behave repesctfully. I have thought about counseling but have an issue with that personally. Why am I needing the mental help to deal with his depression?!? I can't see the silver lining in this, if he don't get the help he needs then I'm in counseling forever and I'm too practial for that to make any sense. Anyway, you are sooooo not alone and I pray for you to have strength and courage to deal with all of this. God be with you!
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I too am going through the same thing. I am a healthy 36 year old female who married a man with MS. Things were fine until his oldest got pregnant at age 16 and he had a replasp. Now he has more cognitive issues then physical from the MS and because of that he had to go back on disability. He does some housework but can't do much because he also has heart disease that cannot be fixed with surgery. He has stopped all health care and meds, deals with, sometimes massive chest pains daily and does not take his nitro for them. He too can be extrememly demeaning and down right hateful. He hates his body, his life, etc so it's hard to love anyone when he's so busy hating himself. I also struggle with the thought of leaving him but so far have stayed. All the understanding his issues only gets me so far, then I'm to the point of who's understanding me?!? If I left him, he has all day to make my life hell if he wanted to and since his body and brain are just getting sicker I can't trust an emotionally unstable, physically sick man to behave repesctfully. I have thought about counseling but have an issue with that personally. Why am I needing the mental help to deal with his depression?!? I can't see the silver lining in this, if he don't get the help he needs then I'm in counseling forever and I'm too practial for that to make any sense. Anyway, you are sooooo not alone and I pray for you to have strength and courage to deal with all of this. God be with you!
October 14, 2011 - 10:03amThis Comment
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