I have 2 sons, 1 daughter. My oldest (just turned 30) didn't bring his girlfriend home until after they had been together several months and moved into the same apartment. By then, it was understood by the family that they were a couple and rather serious. One of these days, they'll even get married (they don't seem to be in any hurry, but it will happen). I was a bit uneasy the first time they stayed at my house (their apartment was being re-painted) in his old room. He did ask my permission.
I trust my sons to make good decisions, and to not get into frivolous relationships. So far, they have made good decisions and both have terrific girlfriends I love having here.
As for my daughter...!!! Isn't it funny how more protective we are of our daughters! She has not dared to bring anyone over, let alone overnight. She keeps telling me she's not in a serious relationship, and I have to trust her. It will happen, someday.
I think that, while we try to teach our kids to live a morally upright life, once they leave the nest, they're on their own. We can only expect that they respect the rules of the house and your thoughts and feelings. And they shouldn't be afraid to approach you about bringing their special person home.
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I have 2 sons, 1 daughter. My oldest (just turned 30) didn't bring his girlfriend home until after they had been together several months and moved into the same apartment. By then, it was understood by the family that they were a couple and rather serious. One of these days, they'll even get married (they don't seem to be in any hurry, but it will happen). I was a bit uneasy the first time they stayed at my house (their apartment was being re-painted) in his old room. He did ask my permission.
I trust my sons to make good decisions, and to not get into frivolous relationships. So far, they have made good decisions and both have terrific girlfriends I love having here.
As for my daughter...!!! Isn't it funny how more protective we are of our daughters! She has not dared to bring anyone over, let alone overnight. She keeps telling me she's not in a serious relationship, and I have to trust her. It will happen, someday.
I think that, while we try to teach our kids to live a morally upright life, once they leave the nest, they're on their own. We can only expect that they respect the rules of the house and your thoughts and feelings. And they shouldn't be afraid to approach you about bringing their special person home.
JMHO as a mom of adult children
January 12, 2009 - 5:41pmThis Comment
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