Hi,
Well, just to get the terms right: your vagina is the opening to your cervix and uterus. Your vulva is the outer part, which includes the labia, which include "outer lips" and "inner lips".
It is completely normal: women have labia that are different in sizes, colors, shapes and even textures (some are smooth and some are wrinkly).
It does not sound like you are concerned with anything being wrong with your labia; just that you can not imagine someone else finding them attractive! It is an interesting question, and one that adults even wonder themselves. I would even venture a guess that everyone has felt this way at one time or another--men and women.
Depending on your view, genitalia may not be "aesthetically pleasing" on either gender. Men and women are told to "cover up" these parts. There are parts that are wrinkly, or smooth, or have hair, or are hanging down too much or not enough.
I'm not sure what I can say to ease your fears. Young men who are also 18 years are likely fearing that you are thinking their genitals don't look good: too small, too short, too wrinkly, too this, too that. Another way to look at it: do you find that you are attracted to the opposite sex's "private parts"? (assuming you are heterosexual). If so, that may be all the reassurance you need that the opposite sex also finds your "private parts" attractive, sexy and desirable. Please write back if you think there is something "wrong" about your labia. Have you been to a gynecologist yet? If you are thinking about becoming sexually active, now is the time to go, and your doctor will tell you if anything is "wrong".
I highly recommend reading The Vagina Monologues, as it is an easy read and is liberating to hear women talk about what they hate (and love) about their vaginas, labias, vulvas and the like.
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Hi,
Well, just to get the terms right: your vagina is the opening to your cervix and uterus. Your vulva is the outer part, which includes the labia, which include "outer lips" and "inner lips".
It is completely normal: women have labia that are different in sizes, colors, shapes and even textures (some are smooth and some are wrinkly).
It does not sound like you are concerned with anything being wrong with your labia; just that you can not imagine someone else finding them attractive! It is an interesting question, and one that adults even wonder themselves. I would even venture a guess that everyone has felt this way at one time or another--men and women.
Depending on your view, genitalia may not be "aesthetically pleasing" on either gender. Men and women are told to "cover up" these parts. There are parts that are wrinkly, or smooth, or have hair, or are hanging down too much or not enough.
I'm not sure what I can say to ease your fears. Young men who are also 18 years are likely fearing that you are thinking their genitals don't look good: too small, too short, too wrinkly, too this, too that. Another way to look at it: do you find that you are attracted to the opposite sex's "private parts"? (assuming you are heterosexual). If so, that may be all the reassurance you need that the opposite sex also finds your "private parts" attractive, sexy and desirable. Please write back if you think there is something "wrong" about your labia. Have you been to a gynecologist yet? If you are thinking about becoming sexually active, now is the time to go, and your doctor will tell you if anything is "wrong".
I highly recommend reading The Vagina Monologues, as it is an easy read and is liberating to hear women talk about what they hate (and love) about their vaginas, labias, vulvas and the like.
February 8, 2009 - 2:59pmThis Comment
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