Hi,
After reading your post, I am wondering why you think your current boyfriend is the "nice one" telling you that "he is always disappointed that he couldn't give you an orgasm", when your previous boyfriends were the "mean or dumb ones" who "didn't bring it up"?
If you were not concerned about it before, and are enjoying all of the other sexual activities, then I hope you continue enjoying them and not change your mind because one boyfriend told you what (he thinks!) you are missing. I find that difficult to believe, honestly, that we can presume to know, even if he has had other sexual partners!
Your age may/may not have anything to do with orgasms, but rather, your relationship with your body and your current partner. Trust, love, understanding and mutual respect are HUGE factors in all relationships, particularly in sexual ones.
And, since you asked for advice, I would like to provide some information. Orgasms are considered the "climax", and in order to reach this state, you would need to feel highly aroused. Many partners place certain unachievable expectations on the end result (orgasm), instead of focusing on providing the right amount of stimulation, teasing, touching and other pleasing feelings so that you are highly aroused. Some partners have the end goal in sight, and rush to it instead of enjoying the journey, and (unfortunately?), many women's bodies to not respond well to being hurried. If you are not really into masturbation, have you ever considered trying a vibrator, either by yourself or with a partner?
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Hi,
After reading your post, I am wondering why you think your current boyfriend is the "nice one" telling you that "he is always disappointed that he couldn't give you an orgasm", when your previous boyfriends were the "mean or dumb ones" who "didn't bring it up"?
If you were not concerned about it before, and are enjoying all of the other sexual activities, then I hope you continue enjoying them and not change your mind because one boyfriend told you what (he thinks!) you are missing. I find that difficult to believe, honestly, that we can presume to know, even if he has had other sexual partners!
Your age may/may not have anything to do with orgasms, but rather, your relationship with your body and your current partner. Trust, love, understanding and mutual respect are HUGE factors in all relationships, particularly in sexual ones.
And, since you asked for advice, I would like to provide some information. Orgasms are considered the "climax", and in order to reach this state, you would need to feel highly aroused. Many partners place certain unachievable expectations on the end result (orgasm), instead of focusing on providing the right amount of stimulation, teasing, touching and other pleasing feelings so that you are highly aroused. Some partners have the end goal in sight, and rush to it instead of enjoying the journey, and (unfortunately?), many women's bodies to not respond well to being hurried. If you are not really into masturbation, have you ever considered trying a vibrator, either by yourself or with a partner?
March 8, 2009 - 8:55pmThis Comment
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