My husband has been looking at porn for around 10 years. He kept it hidden from me until I found some on his computer about 2 years ago and he promised to never look at it again, although a while later I found more. We are actually separated now, for a number of reasons, porn included but not the only reason. We are in counseling and we just brought it up with the counselor, I hadn't previously because my husband doesn't like the counseling very much and he's very embarrassed to talk about it in counseling, but I think that it's important. I told him that I thought he had a porn addiction and he said maybe he does. He acknowledges that it's a problem, and we are both Christians, and we both think that it is wrong.
Personally, I do not have a problem with him having pictures of me, but I wonder if it is healthy for him. I'm not concerned that he would share the pictures, I just wonder if for someone who has a porn addiction if continuing to view pictures, even if of me, is healthy. It's complicated right now because we're separated. I think that he should only have a physical and personal relationship, rather than photographs, even if they are of me. But it's true I'm not always available, I'm just not sure what's reasonable.
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My husband has been looking at porn for around 10 years. He kept it hidden from me until I found some on his computer about 2 years ago and he promised to never look at it again, although a while later I found more. We are actually separated now, for a number of reasons, porn included but not the only reason. We are in counseling and we just brought it up with the counselor, I hadn't previously because my husband doesn't like the counseling very much and he's very embarrassed to talk about it in counseling, but I think that it's important. I told him that I thought he had a porn addiction and he said maybe he does. He acknowledges that it's a problem, and we are both Christians, and we both think that it is wrong.
Personally, I do not have a problem with him having pictures of me, but I wonder if it is healthy for him. I'm not concerned that he would share the pictures, I just wonder if for someone who has a porn addiction if continuing to view pictures, even if of me, is healthy. It's complicated right now because we're separated. I think that he should only have a physical and personal relationship, rather than photographs, even if they are of me. But it's true I'm not always available, I'm just not sure what's reasonable.
March 16, 2009 - 9:11pmThis Comment
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