By saying your real father even found children sexy, are you saying that he sexually abused you and your sister? Or if there was not physical sexual abuse, was there emotional abuse due to how he was treating you, your sister and your mother?
If so, you had any therapy for this, Anon?
Part of working through this issue with your husband is going to rest on your self-esteem and your confidence in standing up for your beliefs about what is right, and what is safe for your children. And if you are a child of a sexual abuser yourself, your self-esteem is very likely low to start with.
It is surprising to me that you knew this man for five years before you married him and there was seemingly no sign of a porn issue before. Were there ever signs that something like this was going on in the past?
Do you think that your husband would get counseling for this if you asked him?
Please write back with some more details. We're here to help.
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Anon,
By saying your real father even found children sexy, are you saying that he sexually abused you and your sister? Or if there was not physical sexual abuse, was there emotional abuse due to how he was treating you, your sister and your mother?
If so, you had any therapy for this, Anon?
Part of working through this issue with your husband is going to rest on your self-esteem and your confidence in standing up for your beliefs about what is right, and what is safe for your children. And if you are a child of a sexual abuser yourself, your self-esteem is very likely low to start with.
It is surprising to me that you knew this man for five years before you married him and there was seemingly no sign of a porn issue before. Were there ever signs that something like this was going on in the past?
Do you think that your husband would get counseling for this if you asked him?
Please write back with some more details. We're here to help.
November 11, 2009 - 9:55amThis Comment
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