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I just finished reading a book called Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes. A year ago someone bought this book for me because of problems I was discovering with my husband. I read two pages and thought they were crazy and that it didn't apply to our situation at all. The book talks about all forms of sexual addiction, and I didn't take it seriously because I thought it was talking about more serious problems, far worse than anything my husband was capable of. My husband had a problem with pornography, sure, but this book was talking about all forms of sexual addiction, pornography, but also people who visited prostitutes multiple times a week, who had sex in rest stops, and more, things that I thought were totally and completely different. Eventually, I learned there was more to my husband's addiction than I had realized, and I finally picked up the book.

I really recommend that women who know their husband is addicted to pornography, or perhaps they might say "has a problem with pornography," I really encourage you to read this book. Look beyond the horror of it, don't think, my husband is not this man, because it doesn't matter. I realized that even though it describes all kinds of behaviors that don't pertain to my husband, it does describe sexual addiction well, and the addiction is similar in all forms. It also helped me to understand how he could be this way. I literally just finished the book yesterday, and I don't know if it will make anything any easier or not yet, but I do think it helps to understand.