You sound content, which is important. You sound like you have your feet on the ground and are very conscious of what's going on around you, and you've made decisions that make you feel right about the way you live your life. All that is good.
I'm sorry you feel that others are out to change you, though it's probably understandable. They may not see you doing anything but "going through the motions." They may not understand that you actually have reasons for the choices that you've made and that you're happy with those reasons.
Thought-provoking comments, for sure. Thank you.