Loosing a job can be emasculating for a man. He may feel insecure about himself, stressed and then may have trouble performing. A man who looses his livelihood can feel "less of a man" , if you will.
Also, some women complain that their partners have trouble with erectile dysfunction if they use pornography a lot as they, in a sense, become addicted to it and then find it hard to get turned on by a flesh and blood woman. Do you know if he uses pornography? Some men can use it without repercussions but others begin to like it a little too much and some even choose it over having sex as there is no pressure and they only have to concentrate on themselves.
I'm not saying that this is your boyfriend's problem...it could be anything, but with the internet and the easy availability of pornographic material, it is an increasingly serious issue that is often not completely recognized yet in our society.
The most important thing is communication, understanding, not blaming each other and trying to get to the bottom of the issue without stressing each other out.
Good luck.
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Loosing a job can be emasculating for a man. He may feel insecure about himself, stressed and then may have trouble performing. A man who looses his livelihood can feel "less of a man" , if you will.
Also, some women complain that their partners have trouble with erectile dysfunction if they use pornography a lot as they, in a sense, become addicted to it and then find it hard to get turned on by a flesh and blood woman. Do you know if he uses pornography? Some men can use it without repercussions but others begin to like it a little too much and some even choose it over having sex as there is no pressure and they only have to concentrate on themselves.
I'm not saying that this is your boyfriend's problem...it could be anything, but with the internet and the easy availability of pornographic material, it is an increasingly serious issue that is often not completely recognized yet in our society.
The most important thing is communication, understanding, not blaming each other and trying to get to the bottom of the issue without stressing each other out.
March 19, 2009 - 5:21pmGood luck.
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