Susan gave you wonderful advice, and I'd like to add a few more thoughts: some, if not most, women are not able to have an orgasm with intercourse alone. There is nothing frigid or wrong about that...it's just our anatomy! As Susan suggested, practice, practice, practice (alone and with your boyfriend) and experiment with different sensations and positions. The practice is not meant to suggest that you are bad at this and need to improve; the practice is to learn from your body and "hear" its cues on what will result in the big "O".
Also, as you learn more and more what creates that highest amount of physical arousal for you...you can re-create this with your boyfriend...then stop right before you may reach orgasm. It sounds difficult to do, but the "teasing" aspect can really produce some great climaxes (orgasm) and higher sense of arousal.
There are many books out there on this subject; another indicator that many, many women are after this ever-elusive orgasm. Don't call yourself any more names or label yourself anymore...enjoy what you have, enjoy every step of the arousal process, and practice intimacy in every way possible with your boyfriend.
Let us know if you would like some book recommendations; there have been many suggested in other areas of the Q&A sections regarding sexual well-being and orgasms.
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Susan gave you wonderful advice, and I'd like to add a few more thoughts: some, if not most, women are not able to have an orgasm with intercourse alone. There is nothing frigid or wrong about that...it's just our anatomy! As Susan suggested, practice, practice, practice (alone and with your boyfriend) and experiment with different sensations and positions. The practice is not meant to suggest that you are bad at this and need to improve; the practice is to learn from your body and "hear" its cues on what will result in the big "O".
Also, as you learn more and more what creates that highest amount of physical arousal for you...you can re-create this with your boyfriend...then stop right before you may reach orgasm. It sounds difficult to do, but the "teasing" aspect can really produce some great climaxes (orgasm) and higher sense of arousal.
There are many books out there on this subject; another indicator that many, many women are after this ever-elusive orgasm. Don't call yourself any more names or label yourself anymore...enjoy what you have, enjoy every step of the arousal process, and practice intimacy in every way possible with your boyfriend.
Let us know if you would like some book recommendations; there have been many suggested in other areas of the Q&A sections regarding sexual well-being and orgasms.
March 22, 2009 - 4:51pmThis Comment
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