I just want to take a moment to thank everyone for their encouragement. As most of us know, while we are deviding our belongings when getting divorced, we also unknowingly are dividing up our friends. It can be hard sometimes to keep supportive people close at hand.
A close friend who is a therapist told me that if I thought about staying to look up Narcissistic Disorder before I committed because she thought my H fit this profile. She was dead on! The only trait that my H doesn't have is physically abusive. Anyone dealing with a controlling, manipulative, emotionally abusive H, should look it up... It's extremely scarey and motivating!