Dear Anon, western societies are fixated with "orgasms" as a measure of success in a relationship. This obsession triggers stress hormones that backfire, resulting on a vicious cycle. It is my belief that western cultures (thanks to Hollywood and other media messages) have influenced our heads to the point that sexual performance is considered above INTIMACY, LOVING and NURTURING. Your case may be either linked to hormonal levels such as low testosterone or an emotional root cause, or it could be as simple as just self-impose expectations to perform a natural biological act.
Statistics show that you are among the majority of American couples who are experiencing the same. In other words, you are not a unique case. Our busy lives, work schedules, rush, rush, rush, are directly linked to absence of sex in the bedroom in most American homes. Is that bad? It is a matter of choice and perspective. Building intimacy is probably as important as having intercourse and experiencing "orgasms". A loving couple who is busy should make efforts to find the time to express the physiological expression of their love. But love between two people is more than an orgasm. Here is what I suggest:
1. Have your doctor test your testosterone levels
2. Talk to your hubby about your concerns
3. Consider foreplay not just on the day of but in preparation for the day as early as a week before.
4. Practice meditation and breathing exercises prior to the sex date, focus on your body and love yourself first.
5. DO NOT THINK! Let the shatter of your brain stop while you are playing and exploring each others' bodies. No judgment, just surrender.
6. Guide your hubby to your "G" spots gently, talk to him, coach him.
There is a great product that is known to naturally enhance sexual performance, it comes in different forms and it is sold at most healthfood stores. It is called MACA. I suggest you add this to your diet and your hubby's.
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Dear Anon, western societies are fixated with "orgasms" as a measure of success in a relationship. This obsession triggers stress hormones that backfire, resulting on a vicious cycle. It is my belief that western cultures (thanks to Hollywood and other media messages) have influenced our heads to the point that sexual performance is considered above INTIMACY, LOVING and NURTURING. Your case may be either linked to hormonal levels such as low testosterone or an emotional root cause, or it could be as simple as just self-impose expectations to perform a natural biological act.
Statistics show that you are among the majority of American couples who are experiencing the same. In other words, you are not a unique case. Our busy lives, work schedules, rush, rush, rush, are directly linked to absence of sex in the bedroom in most American homes. Is that bad? It is a matter of choice and perspective. Building intimacy is probably as important as having intercourse and experiencing "orgasms". A loving couple who is busy should make efforts to find the time to express the physiological expression of their love. But love between two people is more than an orgasm. Here is what I suggest:
1. Have your doctor test your testosterone levels
2. Talk to your hubby about your concerns
3. Consider foreplay not just on the day of but in preparation for the day as early as a week before.
4. Practice meditation and breathing exercises prior to the sex date, focus on your body and love yourself first.
5. DO NOT THINK! Let the shatter of your brain stop while you are playing and exploring each others' bodies. No judgment, just surrender.
6. Guide your hubby to your "G" spots gently, talk to him, coach him.
There is a great product that is known to naturally enhance sexual performance, it comes in different forms and it is sold at most healthfood stores. It is called MACA. I suggest you add this to your diet and your hubby's.
March 25, 2009 - 8:57pmThis Comment
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