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Hi, Anon,

Thank you for your question. I'm so glad you wrote.

Like the woman above, you are absolutely normal. You will not be like this forever! You are a new mom (and most likely exhausted) and everything about your life has changed since the baby came, so it makes sense that your sex life has changed as well. This is very common.

You mention that your partner is your fiance. Is marriage in your timeline? Is that a source of stress for either of you?

Was your sex life good before you were pregnant?

Are you breastfeeding?

Please don't feel like less of a woman. You have had a baby, which is one of the most womanly things you can do!! I get the feeling that talking about this issue is tough for you and your fiancee, since it obviously escalates into arguing very easily. How do the arguments start? Are they about other things too, not just the bedroom?

You say you can't stand the thought of sex. Do you feel like you are a different person since you had the baby? Is it hard to think of yourself in a sexual way? This too is very common.

Can you answer the above questions and tell us a little more?