In addition to all the great points Susan made, I wanted to mention a couple of things.
I can tell you are a perfectionist (it takes one to know one, LOL). I have been where you are, and I can tell you this: You're not taking nearly enough pleasure from the things you are accomplishing.
The fact that you eat well and exercise regularly is so great! So many people never do this!! And you have fabulous measurements -- I can tell that you have a gorgeous hourglass figure from the measurements you gave. And yet you are focused on what you aren't.
You know the old thing about the glass is half empty or half full? Your fitness glass is 7/8 full and yet you're almost seeing it as empty because it's not all the way to 8/8. This is just wrong. You are awesome in what you do, and I want you to start patting yourself on the back for it.
I used to be the same way. And what I can now see is this: That the years in which I had the best body of my life were also the years in which I refused to see that -- and enjoy it. And now that I'm older and my metabolism and hormones make it more difficult to accomplish weight loss and body shaping, I can see how far from reality my body image was then. I saw only the flaws, despite the fact that I had a thin, lean, lovely shape.
Is it possible that your body image is off? Is it possible that while you look in the mirror and say "why do I weigh so much?" that others see you in the mirror and think, "wow, I wish I looked like her!" ? I'm guessing this is totally the case.
Which is not to say that we can't always work to improve things. It's just that I want you to see all the good things you are already doing as being more important. If you want to focus on getting more toned in certain areas, if you want something to fit a little differently, it may be that an appointment or two with a personal trainer will help. Or it may be that you need to adjust what you're eating a little -- more protein, a little monounsaturated fat, etc. Even if everything you eat is organic and good for you, the number of calories does count.
I think what worries me most is that you are concerned with what others weigh. In order to know this, you have to be watching someone step on the scale and watch to see how their number comes out. That tells me that, like Susan said, that number might be more important to you than all the good work you're doing. Think about that, and see if it's true. And if you need more reinforcement, come back here for a pep talk. We think what you're doing rocks!
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Hi, Anon. Your question is a great one.
In addition to all the great points Susan made, I wanted to mention a couple of things.
I can tell you are a perfectionist (it takes one to know one, LOL). I have been where you are, and I can tell you this: You're not taking nearly enough pleasure from the things you are accomplishing.
The fact that you eat well and exercise regularly is so great! So many people never do this!! And you have fabulous measurements -- I can tell that you have a gorgeous hourglass figure from the measurements you gave. And yet you are focused on what you aren't.
You know the old thing about the glass is half empty or half full? Your fitness glass is 7/8 full and yet you're almost seeing it as empty because it's not all the way to 8/8. This is just wrong. You are awesome in what you do, and I want you to start patting yourself on the back for it.
I used to be the same way. And what I can now see is this: That the years in which I had the best body of my life were also the years in which I refused to see that -- and enjoy it. And now that I'm older and my metabolism and hormones make it more difficult to accomplish weight loss and body shaping, I can see how far from reality my body image was then. I saw only the flaws, despite the fact that I had a thin, lean, lovely shape.
Is it possible that your body image is off? Is it possible that while you look in the mirror and say "why do I weigh so much?" that others see you in the mirror and think, "wow, I wish I looked like her!" ? I'm guessing this is totally the case.
Which is not to say that we can't always work to improve things. It's just that I want you to see all the good things you are already doing as being more important. If you want to focus on getting more toned in certain areas, if you want something to fit a little differently, it may be that an appointment or two with a personal trainer will help. Or it may be that you need to adjust what you're eating a little -- more protein, a little monounsaturated fat, etc. Even if everything you eat is organic and good for you, the number of calories does count.
I think what worries me most is that you are concerned with what others weigh. In order to know this, you have to be watching someone step on the scale and watch to see how their number comes out. That tells me that, like Susan said, that number might be more important to you than all the good work you're doing. Think about that, and see if it's true. And if you need more reinforcement, come back here for a pep talk. We think what you're doing rocks!
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