Hi,
Your comment, "I read an article at the gym about an actress who weighs 131 lbs at my height(5 6") who thinks that this is too heavy and wants to be 115 lbs. So I am not the only one who is unhappy with a "reasonable weight". On the other extreme, you are comparing yourself to a "chubby girl who weighs less", and this thought is making you feel like you should weigh less. These two extremes are red flags for me...I used to work with women in their 20s and 30s who were living with body dysmorphic disorder, eating disorders and body image issues...the entire range of the continuum of body dissatisfaction, despite their current healthy weight.
You may find Jenni's story inspirational, called Finding Me.
I was scared when I read that you are comparing yourself to a model, who's ideal weight is considered a health RISK! If she is 5' 6", and wants to be 115...that gives her a BMI of 18.6. A BMI of 18.5 or less is considered dangerously underweight.
Can you think of more positive role models, who look great, have lots of energy, and are a healthy weight? What if you did not weigh yourself, so you are not so concerned with a number that fluctuates, but rather enjoyed healthy food, enjoy exercise..and focus your energy on more positive areas of your life. If you are unable to do this, please read the links above, and consider talking with a Registered Dietitian or Therapist about your body concerns.
I'm so sorry that you are depressed when you see a number on the scale that does not meet the criteria that you have set for yourself. I am currently trying to lose weight myself, and know how frustrating it is to not see progress. Perhaps you used the word "depressed" casually, but I took it as a serious description. Getting fitter and healthier are great goals, but can not control your emotions...when you are seeing a woman in the mirror who does not meet the pre-determined criteria that is based on ???, then this is when there is a body image issue that is a concern. We are hear to talk with you more about this.
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Hi,
Your comment, "I read an article at the gym about an actress who weighs 131 lbs at my height(5 6") who thinks that this is too heavy and wants to be 115 lbs. So I am not the only one who is unhappy with a "reasonable weight". On the other extreme, you are comparing yourself to a "chubby girl who weighs less", and this thought is making you feel like you should weigh less. These two extremes are red flags for me...I used to work with women in their 20s and 30s who were living with body dysmorphic disorder, eating disorders and body image issues...the entire range of the continuum of body dissatisfaction, despite their current healthy weight.
You may find Jenni's story inspirational, called Finding Me.
I was scared when I read that you are comparing yourself to a model, who's ideal weight is considered a health RISK! If she is 5' 6", and wants to be 115...that gives her a BMI of 18.6. A BMI of 18.5 or less is considered dangerously underweight.
Can you think of more positive role models, who look great, have lots of energy, and are a healthy weight? What if you did not weigh yourself, so you are not so concerned with a number that fluctuates, but rather enjoyed healthy food, enjoy exercise..and focus your energy on more positive areas of your life. If you are unable to do this, please read the links above, and consider talking with a Registered Dietitian or Therapist about your body concerns.
I'm so sorry that you are depressed when you see a number on the scale that does not meet the criteria that you have set for yourself. I am currently trying to lose weight myself, and know how frustrating it is to not see progress. Perhaps you used the word "depressed" casually, but I took it as a serious description. Getting fitter and healthier are great goals, but can not control your emotions...when you are seeing a woman in the mirror who does not meet the pre-determined criteria that is based on ???, then this is when there is a body image issue that is a concern. We are hear to talk with you more about this.
Take care.
April 2, 2009 - 2:50pmThis Comment
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