Hello Anonymous,
I'm a 47 yr old married female, soon to be 48, and I am having the exact same problem as you. For almost the past year, all i can think about is sex. Same as you, mutlitple partners, experimentation, cheating. I'm starting to believe it's like a hast hurrah before menopause. I used to have problems with painful penetration and dryness, but not anymore. I feel like I've gone crazy in a way, my sex drive has never been this high in my entire life.
I love it as well, but I am in a very troubled marriage that I don't believe is salvageable. If you have a good marriage, but it's only sex problems, I suggest you consider forgiving your husband. From this vantage point, it seems that you are only punishing him by making him wear a condom and depriving him or oral sex (which deprives you too). After all, it's been 5 years, and he obviously still loves you by wanting to have sex with you. Men express their love through sex and the need for it is much more physical. You say you have problems thinking about him with the other woman. What happens if you act on your desire to cheat? I can almost guarantee the first time with someone else won't be what you expect. At the same time, if you've never cheated maybe you need to use your "get out of jail free cheat card". What if you cheat and get caught? Then your husband thinks about another man giving you oral. Same deal. If you want to cheat, I say go for it, it could open up a whole new world for you. If cheating doesn't work out for you you have your husband and he may just love your new and improved libido, and it is quite possible for the two of you to experience sex on a whole different level. On a final note, I equate what you and I are both going through to what it feels like to be a teenage boy. It's a constant want for sex.
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Hello Anonymous,
December 14, 2012 - 7:25pmI'm a 47 yr old married female, soon to be 48, and I am having the exact same problem as you. For almost the past year, all i can think about is sex. Same as you, mutlitple partners, experimentation, cheating. I'm starting to believe it's like a hast hurrah before menopause. I used to have problems with painful penetration and dryness, but not anymore. I feel like I've gone crazy in a way, my sex drive has never been this high in my entire life.
I love it as well, but I am in a very troubled marriage that I don't believe is salvageable. If you have a good marriage, but it's only sex problems, I suggest you consider forgiving your husband. From this vantage point, it seems that you are only punishing him by making him wear a condom and depriving him or oral sex (which deprives you too). After all, it's been 5 years, and he obviously still loves you by wanting to have sex with you. Men express their love through sex and the need for it is much more physical. You say you have problems thinking about him with the other woman. What happens if you act on your desire to cheat? I can almost guarantee the first time with someone else won't be what you expect. At the same time, if you've never cheated maybe you need to use your "get out of jail free cheat card". What if you cheat and get caught? Then your husband thinks about another man giving you oral. Same deal. If you want to cheat, I say go for it, it could open up a whole new world for you. If cheating doesn't work out for you you have your husband and he may just love your new and improved libido, and it is quite possible for the two of you to experience sex on a whole different level. On a final note, I equate what you and I are both going through to what it feels like to be a teenage boy. It's a constant want for sex.
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