I'm 48, married to a man who cheated on me 5 years ago while on a business trip. Our sex life was better than excellent, but he still cheated. I have never cheated and never thought I would, but lately, my need for sex seems to be mentally out of control. Recently, an older (9 years older) male co-worker, began showing an interest which started as friendly conversation, now I can't get this man out of my mind. I imagine having sex with him EVERYWHERE. I can't get him out of my head and the thoughts are all sexual. I thought it was just attraction at first, but then it turned into lust. But over the last couple of days, I began to realize that it wasn't just for this male co-worker almost ANY man that I interact with, that catches my eye, I want to have sex with him. I fantasize all the time about sex, in the car, at work, in the shower, reading, watching tv and it's always with older (late 40's to late 50's) men. I have never forgiven my husband and our sex life has suffered. I now force him to wear a condom when ever (and it is not often anymore) we have sex and I refuse to allow him to perform oral sex because (even though I love oral sex) each time he performed oral sex on me (or when we are evening having sex) I always picture him having sex with this other woman. I do have a high sex drive and want to act on it with this co-worker. Our casual conversations have turned to sending each other text messages about where, when and how we want to have sex with each other (he's not married and lives alone). I have resisted so far, but don't know how much longer I can hold off and it's all just for the need for sex. But how do I explain the need to simply have sex with ever man besides the co-worker? I want to cheat, I want to have multiple sex partners. I long for excitement and love making, emotional sex, experimental sex. But again, this is not about payback, suddenly my need for sex with "other men" has exploded and I just love the feeling I am going through right now. Can you help me understand. Is it age? Pre-Menopause? Whatever it is, I am not going to lie I LOVE IT and if I do decide to have sex with my co-worker at least, I know I will not regret it one bit.
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I'm 48, married to a man who cheated on me 5 years ago while on a business trip. Our sex life was better than excellent, but he still cheated. I have never cheated and never thought I would, but lately, my need for sex seems to be mentally out of control. Recently, an older (9 years older) male co-worker, began showing an interest which started as friendly conversation, now I can't get this man out of my mind. I imagine having sex with him EVERYWHERE. I can't get him out of my head and the thoughts are all sexual. I thought it was just attraction at first, but then it turned into lust. But over the last couple of days, I began to realize that it wasn't just for this male co-worker almost ANY man that I interact with, that catches my eye, I want to have sex with him. I fantasize all the time about sex, in the car, at work, in the shower, reading, watching tv and it's always with older (late 40's to late 50's) men. I have never forgiven my husband and our sex life has suffered. I now force him to wear a condom when ever (and it is not often anymore) we have sex and I refuse to allow him to perform oral sex because (even though I love oral sex) each time he performed oral sex on me (or when we are evening having sex) I always picture him having sex with this other woman. I do have a high sex drive and want to act on it with this co-worker. Our casual conversations have turned to sending each other text messages about where, when and how we want to have sex with each other (he's not married and lives alone). I have resisted so far, but don't know how much longer I can hold off and it's all just for the need for sex. But how do I explain the need to simply have sex with ever man besides the co-worker? I want to cheat, I want to have multiple sex partners. I long for excitement and love making, emotional sex, experimental sex. But again, this is not about payback, suddenly my need for sex with "other men" has exploded and I just love the feeling I am going through right now. Can you help me understand. Is it age? Pre-Menopause? Whatever it is, I am not going to lie I LOVE IT and if I do decide to have sex with my co-worker at least, I know I will not regret it one bit.
November 11, 2011 - 2:03pmThis Comment
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