To Anon who just wrote to me (SeeDandy1). Bless you, and let me share with you some things very interesting which was brought to my mind and my experience also with what you said:
I did find one website before I had my Hyst.. I do not know why I was not 'linked' up with the Hers Foundation site, but I got an email answer at a site I went to. It was from a Dr. Stanley West. I explained my situation; that I had two small fibroids, heavy recent bleeding, and the GYN I was seeing (the evil doctor who was pushing me into having a Hyst.) said I "Must" have a Hyst. to stop this, and since I was not having anymore children; he said, (and I quote) "Why do you need your uterus and ovaries any longer?" Oh, he did other scare tactics; such as my anemic state with my 'bloody periods', and I could not afford to even go one more month of a "bloody" period. (On a side note - little did I know - and sure of - the GYN's staff had checked out my great insurance, but due to end the first of the year, and they certainly could not ask what I was going to do next. See, I was working as an associate at a brokerage firm of Smith Barney, and had great insurance with Aetna. I had to quit work; however, a year or so prior; this due to major problems with my left leg and also damage to my right leg, and RSD, my nerve disease spreading. My orthopedic doctor demanded I quit; this to save my legs. So, I was disabled; but, my Aetna insurance was due to cease in January of 2004. I had to personally make a decision to go with another insurance company; or another choice was to go with 'Cobra'. Again, the GYN's office could not ask me what I would be doing. This would be unethical of them. They knew I would be covered until; as I am saying, through the end of 2003; therefore, sure why the doctor pushed to have me have the Hyst. in December of 2003. He was so adamant, and used the reason that I could not even afford to have "one more bloody period". I would lose too much blood, and "You are so anemic. You cannot afford to lose anymore blood in your body." He made it sound as if it was a matter of me being a 'Time Bomb'. Little did I know at the time; it was all centered around he and the hospital being paid through Aetna. To make it sound as if he was just looking out for my health and welfare is as sick as it gets, right? Well, not quite. He also was uncaring about all the rest with me, and how I would be after the Hyst., and no options to check out, but... this would take time on my part. Heaven forbid I would wait on the surgery and research further to be sure this was the right decision...
Getting back about Dr. Stanley West - He emailed me, and said, "You should not necessarily need a Hysterectomy for fibroids. There are alternatives such as a Myectomy. You could wind up with more complications by having a Hysterectomy, and a Myectomy will save your uterus and ovaries. Be sure to check with doctors on this option. This is a more complex surgery, and some GYNs are not competent enough to perform one." Okay, so I did this next:
I brought this email into the GYN prior to my Hyst., and he said this: "How dare a doctor email you with a recommendation as this! He has never seen you. He does not know anything about you. How dare him just email you!" Oh, he was so angry, and I had never seen him as this before. I said, "Well, what about a Myectomy? What is this? What does the surgery involve?" He (still angry) said, "No, you need a Hysterectomy. A Myectomy will not solve your problems." He used a few other 'scare tactics' during this meeting also; such as: cancer, losing more blood, etc.. Here I was in touch with a doctor who had never seen me before; and via an email, he gave me, at least, an alternative to check into; but, this GYN who castrated me would not even go there with explaining a Myectomy as an alternative. How sick this is, and how stupid, brainwashed, trusting, having faith in, I was! I also wish my husband would have been at this appt.. He was at the one following of my three 'Pre-Op' appts., and I feel he would have questioned the doctor further about the possibility of this alternative procedure/surgery of a Myectomy, and this GYN would have been the opposite of being so sublime with his statements with having him in the room.
A medical doctor emailed me who did not "know me from Adam" - so what? Why was this GYN so intimidated by this? Well; of course, I know this answer now.
Oh, and regarding winking at my husband... yes, what a "sleaze". This GYN will see my husband someday, and I am preparing for this now. I am gathering all my notes, writing a letter, and will request to have an appointment with him after I am finished. My husband will attend with me, and not to be there only for support; but, as a victim, himself...
Oh, and Anon here - you did not have a Hyst.? What saved you? I am so amazed and humbled that you voice so strongly here and be so supportive to this, and you did not have a Hyst.? I am rolling out the 'red carpet' for you!!!
Well, "Red Carpets" to all of you also who have been put through such 'Hell'. I send you many hugs - I mean it. (And Anon - it is good that when I do see this GYN on this important day along with my husband; he does not have any sharp objects in his office. Of course, I am kidding here, but I can dream about slicing off half of his penis and remove his testicles, can't I? And to those of you who read this, and think I am harsh with my dream - you have to 'walk my walk' - even for just one day, and you would then want to come along with me, and help me find this GYN's letter opener...)
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To Anon who just wrote to me (SeeDandy1). Bless you, and let me share with you some things very interesting which was brought to my mind and my experience also with what you said:
I did find one website before I had my Hyst.. I do not know why I was not 'linked' up with the Hers Foundation site, but I got an email answer at a site I went to. It was from a Dr. Stanley West. I explained my situation; that I had two small fibroids, heavy recent bleeding, and the GYN I was seeing (the evil doctor who was pushing me into having a Hyst.) said I "Must" have a Hyst. to stop this, and since I was not having anymore children; he said, (and I quote) "Why do you need your uterus and ovaries any longer?" Oh, he did other scare tactics; such as my anemic state with my 'bloody periods', and I could not afford to even go one more month of a "bloody" period. (On a side note - little did I know - and sure of - the GYN's staff had checked out my great insurance, but due to end the first of the year, and they certainly could not ask what I was going to do next. See, I was working as an associate at a brokerage firm of Smith Barney, and had great insurance with Aetna. I had to quit work; however, a year or so prior; this due to major problems with my left leg and also damage to my right leg, and RSD, my nerve disease spreading. My orthopedic doctor demanded I quit; this to save my legs. So, I was disabled; but, my Aetna insurance was due to cease in January of 2004. I had to personally make a decision to go with another insurance company; or another choice was to go with 'Cobra'. Again, the GYN's office could not ask me what I would be doing. This would be unethical of them. They knew I would be covered until; as I am saying, through the end of 2003; therefore, sure why the doctor pushed to have me have the Hyst. in December of 2003. He was so adamant, and used the reason that I could not even afford to have "one more bloody period". I would lose too much blood, and "You are so anemic. You cannot afford to lose anymore blood in your body." He made it sound as if it was a matter of me being a 'Time Bomb'. Little did I know at the time; it was all centered around he and the hospital being paid through Aetna. To make it sound as if he was just looking out for my health and welfare is as sick as it gets, right? Well, not quite. He also was uncaring about all the rest with me, and how I would be after the Hyst., and no options to check out, but... this would take time on my part. Heaven forbid I would wait on the surgery and research further to be sure this was the right decision...
Getting back about Dr. Stanley West - He emailed me, and said, "You should not necessarily need a Hysterectomy for fibroids. There are alternatives such as a Myectomy. You could wind up with more complications by having a Hysterectomy, and a Myectomy will save your uterus and ovaries. Be sure to check with doctors on this option. This is a more complex surgery, and some GYNs are not competent enough to perform one." Okay, so I did this next:
I brought this email into the GYN prior to my Hyst., and he said this: "How dare a doctor email you with a recommendation as this! He has never seen you. He does not know anything about you. How dare him just email you!" Oh, he was so angry, and I had never seen him as this before. I said, "Well, what about a Myectomy? What is this? What does the surgery involve?" He (still angry) said, "No, you need a Hysterectomy. A Myectomy will not solve your problems." He used a few other 'scare tactics' during this meeting also; such as: cancer, losing more blood, etc.. Here I was in touch with a doctor who had never seen me before; and via an email, he gave me, at least, an alternative to check into; but, this GYN who castrated me would not even go there with explaining a Myectomy as an alternative. How sick this is, and how stupid, brainwashed, trusting, having faith in, I was! I also wish my husband would have been at this appt.. He was at the one following of my three 'Pre-Op' appts., and I feel he would have questioned the doctor further about the possibility of this alternative procedure/surgery of a Myectomy, and this GYN would have been the opposite of being so sublime with his statements with having him in the room.
A medical doctor emailed me who did not "know me from Adam" - so what? Why was this GYN so intimidated by this? Well; of course, I know this answer now.
Oh, and regarding winking at my husband... yes, what a "sleaze". This GYN will see my husband someday, and I am preparing for this now. I am gathering all my notes, writing a letter, and will request to have an appointment with him after I am finished. My husband will attend with me, and not to be there only for support; but, as a victim, himself...
Oh, and Anon here - you did not have a Hyst.? What saved you? I am so amazed and humbled that you voice so strongly here and be so supportive to this, and you did not have a Hyst.? I am rolling out the 'red carpet' for you!!!
Well, "Red Carpets" to all of you also who have been put through such 'Hell'. I send you many hugs - I mean it. (And Anon - it is good that when I do see this GYN on this important day along with my husband; he does not have any sharp objects in his office. Of course, I am kidding here, but I can dream about slicing off half of his penis and remove his testicles, can't I? And to those of you who read this, and think I am harsh with my dream - you have to 'walk my walk' - even for just one day, and you would then want to come along with me, and help me find this GYN's letter opener...)
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