As a victim of child molestation, rape and numerous uncomfortable encounters, this article a very insightful guide for those with partners suffering from post rape. Being so emotionally disconnected from myself, I am astonished this article actually put into words what my boundaries should be. I am currently on the road to recovery with the help my boyfriend, who has been very understanding (in his own way, I suppose), but it hasn't come without a much pain, guilt and sometimes feelings of hopelessness. Though he knows my history, he is far from understanding how my past has influenced my feelings toward sex - he even asked me yesterday if I was a lesbian due to my lack of interest to initiate sex and show passion in bed. I have read a few articles to try and grasp my sexual issues and learn to cope with my past, but this article offers great insight as to the actions of a partner that are and are not conducive to recovery. My piece of advise as someone who is recovering from his/her past not mentioned in this article is to never put a timeline to recovery on your partner - it is unnecessary stress. As someone who is attempting to sexually recover from my past, it is a mentally and emotionally draining process reconciling our feelings and trying to make you fit into our disturbed lives at the same time.
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As a victim of child molestation, rape and numerous uncomfortable encounters, this article a very insightful guide for those with partners suffering from post rape. Being so emotionally disconnected from myself, I am astonished this article actually put into words what my boundaries should be. I am currently on the road to recovery with the help my boyfriend, who has been very understanding (in his own way, I suppose), but it hasn't come without a much pain, guilt and sometimes feelings of hopelessness. Though he knows my history, he is far from understanding how my past has influenced my feelings toward sex - he even asked me yesterday if I was a lesbian due to my lack of interest to initiate sex and show passion in bed. I have read a few articles to try and grasp my sexual issues and learn to cope with my past, but this article offers great insight as to the actions of a partner that are and are not conducive to recovery. My piece of advise as someone who is recovering from his/her past not mentioned in this article is to never put a timeline to recovery on your partner - it is unnecessary stress. As someone who is attempting to sexually recover from my past, it is a mentally and emotionally draining process reconciling our feelings and trying to make you fit into our disturbed lives at the same time.
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