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This is a very informative article to understand the perspective of a spouse who has suffered sexual abuse in the past. However, I would have to say it is not complete. It assumes that the only reason a man wants to be intimate is the physical pleasure with comments about excusing yourself to go to the bathroom. Most men who love their wives want to be intimate with their wife because it is a way of feeling close to the woman they love. It is an emotional need more than a physical one. Essentially, the advice here can be summed up as saying forget any and all of your emotional needs if you love her. I don't believe that is healthy for anyone. Especially since PTSD is also often accompanied with other symptoms like quick temper or angry outbursts. In order to give sustained support to a partner, one needs to feel that there is something to fight for. If all you get in return is anger and denial, it won't last for long. I strongly suggest a counselor for both individuals. It can be the same counselor, but you shouldn't go together at first so that both are free to express their feelings.