Anon, excuse me, but it sounds to me like the problem is not that the woman you're having sex with is older, but that she's your mother-in-law. There are much, much bigger and more serious questions here than the matter of your ages.
Why are you cheating on your wife? And you have been doing so for five years? Or are you actually divorced or separated?
Why is this mother doing this to her daughter?
Is this all happening in the same household? Why is this ok with you?
I have to say that on its own, the 10 years' age difference between a 39-year-old and a 49-year-old is no big deal. And it's no one's business but yours how old a partner is. There are tons of people who have relationships with older or younger partners.
But that the hell you are creating by sleeping with your mother-in-law can and most likely will ruin everything that's important to you. You are hurting your marriage. You have gone back on your commitment to be faithful. Your wife will find out, and she will be hurt twice -- by you, and by her mother. You are endangering your health, your wife's health and your mother-in-law's health by risking sexually transmitted diseases. And if there are children involved, it even gets worse.
If you no longer love your wife, it's not kind to keep that information from her and then behave this way. If you do still love your wife, then you have to stop this behavior, find some good therapy and work on self-control. Your mother-in-law is also using very bad judgment here. Someone has to grow up and take charge of the situation. And I would guess that the first step is that she needs to move out.
What's up with all this? Five years? Why haven't you simply moved on? And why does it matter more to you that she's older than that she's your mother-in-law?
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Anon, excuse me, but it sounds to me like the problem is not that the woman you're having sex with is older, but that she's your mother-in-law. There are much, much bigger and more serious questions here than the matter of your ages.
Why are you cheating on your wife? And you have been doing so for five years? Or are you actually divorced or separated?
Why is this mother doing this to her daughter?
Is this all happening in the same household? Why is this ok with you?
I have to say that on its own, the 10 years' age difference between a 39-year-old and a 49-year-old is no big deal. And it's no one's business but yours how old a partner is. There are tons of people who have relationships with older or younger partners.
But that the hell you are creating by sleeping with your mother-in-law can and most likely will ruin everything that's important to you. You are hurting your marriage. You have gone back on your commitment to be faithful. Your wife will find out, and she will be hurt twice -- by you, and by her mother. You are endangering your health, your wife's health and your mother-in-law's health by risking sexually transmitted diseases. And if there are children involved, it even gets worse.
If you no longer love your wife, it's not kind to keep that information from her and then behave this way. If you do still love your wife, then you have to stop this behavior, find some good therapy and work on self-control. Your mother-in-law is also using very bad judgment here. Someone has to grow up and take charge of the situation. And I would guess that the first step is that she needs to move out.
What's up with all this? Five years? Why haven't you simply moved on? And why does it matter more to you that she's older than that she's your mother-in-law?
May 11, 2009 - 9:18amThis Comment
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