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My son is grown, 31 and is married. I know I should be upfront with him, and will do my best. I just don't want to scare him or his wife. I wasn't going to tell him at all. His good friend is 23, an only child, and his mom has Cancer and is struggling. (The dad died years ago.) I told my son that if anything happened to the friends mom I'd have two sons because we weren't going to have him out there alone in the world.

I was just going to push through this and (hopefully) have reconstruction at the time of surgery and move on. Someone asked me "What if they can't do reconstruction at the time of surgery...think he'll notice?" Notice my breasts went missing? Yeah,...I suppose so. As would everyone else. (We're guessing there's some healing time before the prosthetics can be worn?) Then she said "Well...don't you think maybe you should tell him before surgery rather than after?" Good point. I decided to tell him after I know more. I'll be stronger when I have more information. Baby steps. This thing is forcing me to do a lot of things differently than I've done them before, it's a learning process. (but I'd rather read the book.)
As for the boat question, I'm not worried about sailing right after the surgery, I don't live in a smooth sailing zone (Wish I did) so I will wait till I'm able. I'm just concerned with being able to get back down into the boat after surgery. There's a lot of climbing around on a sailboat like this one, always using arms, tummy muscles and back and I'm not sure how difficult it'll be fresh from surgery.

May 20, 2009 - 7:45am

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