I have the same problem. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now. At first things were great and we were very sexually active now, I'm lucky if we have sex once or twice a month. I asked him what's going on and he has a list a mile long. He is tired, he doesn't crave sex, he doesn't like doing it in the day time, I ask for sex too often and it goes on and on. I have wore sexy nighties, suggested we watch movies together, get some toys, set the mood with a bath, everything I can think of and get told no. When we do have sex it's either wham bam and done or he can't maintain an erection. I recently found he is surfing porn while I am work and he has the day off. I don't understand or know what to do. I asked him if it's me, maybe I don't turn him on or not giving him something he needs or wants. He says it's not me and he loves me. I don't feel loved, I feel rejected, fat, ugly, unwanted, repulsive and I could go on. I am at a loss on what to do other than leave. I love him but, I'm lonely, sad and hurt.