To the guy with the "make him chase you" advice... Seriously? How is that an adult relationship? Guys who think this is the answer are asking to be abused, in a way. Regular good women are not manipulative like that and it's really not a healthy relationship pattern. A partnership is about unconditional love. If the guy can't get it up because it's too "available" or she's cozying up to him in sweat pants vs. stilettos - the GUY has a problem. If you're a gal who's looking for someone to grow old with, that kind of guy is going to make you feel bad about yourself always... just sayin.