Well thank you for being sweet too, Texasgirl. I totally agree you can teach people short cuts...and it is to anyone's best interest to avoid mistakes and landmines...I mean they don't have to go through the battle and acquire the battlewounds to come out ahead, they can avoid the painful experience. Your comments here are very much appreciated. It's probably hard to hear to some, especially when people are not ready to change. Afterall, the decision to change comes entirely from a person. No mater how helpful you are, if a person is not ready to change all your advice is for naught. However, it might be just the seed that you planted that start to work in them, and in time, they will be ready to see clearly and ready to change. You know there are people who complain out there, it doesn't have to be a sex issue, but other complaints in life...but in reality, they are attached to it...they won't have it any other way. I know someone like that, she complains about not having enough personal time, and I tell her, well you can always say no to family / relative obligations (that is not life or death)...she replies with oh, no! It's a family obligation, I have to do it. So I know she is addicted to her misery. Her habit of complaining is just that, a habit...she's not unhappy about her situation, she is attached to it and cannot leave it. Change will be too scary. People who reallly want to change will not see themselves as helpless, they will do something in their utmost power about it. But I'm rambling...
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Well thank you for being sweet too, Texasgirl. I totally agree you can teach people short cuts...and it is to anyone's best interest to avoid mistakes and landmines...I mean they don't have to go through the battle and acquire the battlewounds to come out ahead, they can avoid the painful experience. Your comments here are very much appreciated. It's probably hard to hear to some, especially when people are not ready to change. Afterall, the decision to change comes entirely from a person. No mater how helpful you are, if a person is not ready to change all your advice is for naught. However, it might be just the seed that you planted that start to work in them, and in time, they will be ready to see clearly and ready to change. You know there are people who complain out there, it doesn't have to be a sex issue, but other complaints in life...but in reality, they are attached to it...they won't have it any other way. I know someone like that, she complains about not having enough personal time, and I tell her, well you can always say no to family / relative obligations (that is not life or death)...she replies with oh, no! It's a family obligation, I have to do it. So I know she is addicted to her misery. Her habit of complaining is just that, a habit...she's not unhappy about her situation, she is attached to it and cannot leave it. Change will be too scary. People who reallly want to change will not see themselves as helpless, they will do something in their utmost power about it. But I'm rambling...
August 15, 2009 - 10:44pmThis Comment
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