I am experiencing the same problem. I feel there are 2 things going on with me - and perhaps with you too - 1/ We are the BEST of friends, we can talk about anything, we live in each others pockets and I feel we are just too comfortable with each other - the 'sexiness' has gone. There is a reason why sex with strangers (when you first meet) is exciting - there is so much mystery. There is also a reason why sex with an ex - or after a big fight - is exciting as you suddenly aren't taking the other person for granted. The problem is - I have no clue how to get the 'mystery' back at this point.
And number 2 - he is very insecure and shy and i feel as though he worries about his own performance so much he cant enjoy it.
It's making me miserable. I feel like a completely unsexy useless old woman. Don't listen to any comments about cheating or being gay - you have to assess YOUR situation - and every situation is unique.
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I am experiencing the same problem. I feel there are 2 things going on with me - and perhaps with you too - 1/ We are the BEST of friends, we can talk about anything, we live in each others pockets and I feel we are just too comfortable with each other - the 'sexiness' has gone. There is a reason why sex with strangers (when you first meet) is exciting - there is so much mystery. There is also a reason why sex with an ex - or after a big fight - is exciting as you suddenly aren't taking the other person for granted. The problem is - I have no clue how to get the 'mystery' back at this point.
December 1, 2009 - 3:48amAnd number 2 - he is very insecure and shy and i feel as though he worries about his own performance so much he cant enjoy it.
It's making me miserable. I feel like a completely unsexy useless old woman. Don't listen to any comments about cheating or being gay - you have to assess YOUR situation - and every situation is unique.
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