Hi there. Wow. I didn't expect to find so many pages talking about this. I have been with my man for ten months now. after dating for a month and a half he moved in permanently. When he used to come around in the beginning (b4 moving in), we sometimes used to have sex. But we have never had sex as often as everyone else seems to in the beginning. I am so confused - we are both 30 - and he has had soooo many girlfriends in the past. Every guy I have been with wants sex on a daily basis (and I am more than happy to oblige!). I love sex. I'm not a 'sex-a-holic' - I could never have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to or someone who I wasn't involved with... but I am getting more and more hurt. I have talked to him often about it and he always says that he is stressed about work - which he clearly is - and that he just isn't tired (when I eventually have to go to bed at 1or 2 am!) and that he is a 'morning sex' person, whereas I'm a night sex person - but he knows I would LOVE it anytime! He kisses me and cuddles me and tells me how beautiful I am and that he wants to spend his life with me.... but I don't know if I can keep masturbating every time i feel horny for the rest of my life and fantasising about previous partners as whenever I try to fantasise about him I just have this overwhelming sense of rejection that i end up crying and feeling even more frustrated! I don't believe he is cheating on me - he comes home late but if I drive past work he is always there. What do I do? WHen I asked him again last week about it, he said 'well how often do you want it anyway?' - he thinks once a week is good, but if it doesn't happen, no matter. It's been 4 weeks since sex. He wants to be a dad so much and everytime I get a period cramp or say I feel sick, he gets excited and says 'you might be pregnant!'.... why? you have to have sex to get pregnant! I feel so alone and I cant talk to anyone about this... every other guy i have been with treated me terribly and this man is loving and caring and so tender.... what do I do???? I don't think he's gay - it's clear he loves women, as he will often check em out at the beach if wearing a bikini (as I dont feel confident enough to wear one) which makes me feel even worse.... i know i am attractive, i know that i could get another man, but i love this man so much. what do i do???? please. I feel so lost. My self esteem sucks and I was such a confident person before i started feeling so rejected. Even as i write this, tears are running down my cheeks! I just want to feel desired! HELP!
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Hi there. Wow. I didn't expect to find so many pages talking about this. I have been with my man for ten months now. after dating for a month and a half he moved in permanently. When he used to come around in the beginning (b4 moving in), we sometimes used to have sex. But we have never had sex as often as everyone else seems to in the beginning. I am so confused - we are both 30 - and he has had soooo many girlfriends in the past. Every guy I have been with wants sex on a daily basis (and I am more than happy to oblige!). I love sex. I'm not a 'sex-a-holic' - I could never have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to or someone who I wasn't involved with... but I am getting more and more hurt. I have talked to him often about it and he always says that he is stressed about work - which he clearly is - and that he just isn't tired (when I eventually have to go to bed at 1or 2 am!) and that he is a 'morning sex' person, whereas I'm a night sex person - but he knows I would LOVE it anytime! He kisses me and cuddles me and tells me how beautiful I am and that he wants to spend his life with me.... but I don't know if I can keep masturbating every time i feel horny for the rest of my life and fantasising about previous partners as whenever I try to fantasise about him I just have this overwhelming sense of rejection that i end up crying and feeling even more frustrated! I don't believe he is cheating on me - he comes home late but if I drive past work he is always there. What do I do? WHen I asked him again last week about it, he said 'well how often do you want it anyway?' - he thinks once a week is good, but if it doesn't happen, no matter. It's been 4 weeks since sex. He wants to be a dad so much and everytime I get a period cramp or say I feel sick, he gets excited and says 'you might be pregnant!'.... why? you have to have sex to get pregnant! I feel so alone and I cant talk to anyone about this... every other guy i have been with treated me terribly and this man is loving and caring and so tender.... what do I do???? I don't think he's gay - it's clear he loves women, as he will often check em out at the beach if wearing a bikini (as I dont feel confident enough to wear one) which makes me feel even worse.... i know i am attractive, i know that i could get another man, but i love this man so much. what do i do???? please. I feel so lost. My self esteem sucks and I was such a confident person before i started feeling so rejected. Even as i write this, tears are running down my cheeks! I just want to feel desired! HELP!
December 18, 2009 - 2:23amThis Comment
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