You're in a tough spot. You're dealing with someone who is withdrawn (and possibly depressed?) and you are almost being put in the role of parent.
Reread what you wrote. You do most of the cooking, cleaning and taxing. He won't do anything for himself. He has no interest in sex or even in affection. He talks down to you and it doesn't feel like his heart is in it. He doesn't support you at all.
Why are you staying? I know that is an easy question to ask, but it's something I want you to think about. He is no longer taking responsibility for his own life, and he's not communicating with you honestly about it.
And he's making you into the parent in the relationship, which is deadly.
Is he working? Does he like his job?
Is he healthy? Overweight? Underweight? Does he exercise?
Does he do things for himself when he is interested in them?
Did anything specific happen about a year ago? (Job loss, major change, you moved in together, a death in the family, etc)?
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Anon,
You're in a tough spot. You're dealing with someone who is withdrawn (and possibly depressed?) and you are almost being put in the role of parent.
Reread what you wrote. You do most of the cooking, cleaning and taxing. He won't do anything for himself. He has no interest in sex or even in affection. He talks down to you and it doesn't feel like his heart is in it. He doesn't support you at all.
Why are you staying? I know that is an easy question to ask, but it's something I want you to think about. He is no longer taking responsibility for his own life, and he's not communicating with you honestly about it.
And he's making you into the parent in the relationship, which is deadly.
Is he working? Does he like his job?
Is he healthy? Overweight? Underweight? Does he exercise?
Does he do things for himself when he is interested in them?
Did anything specific happen about a year ago? (Job loss, major change, you moved in together, a death in the family, etc)?
April 28, 2010 - 10:17amThis Comment
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