If you are not happy, there just is not going to be a good time to tell him. It is difficult to "admit defeat" as you say, but can you look at it from another perspective? Relationships are not about winning or losing. Relationships are about learning and loving, changing and growing. You learned and loved, and how you have grown up and changed, and realized this is not the person for you. That is really great, as so many people are not strong enough to even admit this. It is hard, but you can do it. Your life can absolutely change..for the better, and the scariest part of change is the unknown. What if there is an even BETTER person out there for you, better living situation, better life?!
You deserve a happy and healthy relationship, and can have this. There are many people who do not secretly text other women, who care about their girlfriend's feelings, and is not distant. There are very caring men who are honest, trustworthy, fun, cute, adventurous, faithful, happy and also want a healthy mutual relationship filled with joy and love.
Your parents, I assume, would be happy that YOU are happy, regardless if that means this man is in your life or not. I assume your parents may have dated before they married each other, and had to go through breakups as well. Think about people who go through an entire engagement, wedding, marriage...and then get divorced. That is so hard, because you are a part of a family, and these individuals feel they have to "admit defeat" and publicly admit that their relationship did not turn out the way they wanted. That is the risk in relationships; there is no guarantee that relationships will work, but it is also part of the love and faith that you must have in yourself and others.
Are you in school or working? Do you have friends you can move in with temporarily, or stay with your parents until you can find another place to live? Is your boyfriend paying for your rent, etc? Do you have your own money?
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If you are not happy, there just is not going to be a good time to tell him. It is difficult to "admit defeat" as you say, but can you look at it from another perspective? Relationships are not about winning or losing. Relationships are about learning and loving, changing and growing. You learned and loved, and how you have grown up and changed, and realized this is not the person for you. That is really great, as so many people are not strong enough to even admit this. It is hard, but you can do it. Your life can absolutely change..for the better, and the scariest part of change is the unknown. What if there is an even BETTER person out there for you, better living situation, better life?!
You deserve a happy and healthy relationship, and can have this. There are many people who do not secretly text other women, who care about their girlfriend's feelings, and is not distant. There are very caring men who are honest, trustworthy, fun, cute, adventurous, faithful, happy and also want a healthy mutual relationship filled with joy and love.
Your parents, I assume, would be happy that YOU are happy, regardless if that means this man is in your life or not. I assume your parents may have dated before they married each other, and had to go through breakups as well. Think about people who go through an entire engagement, wedding, marriage...and then get divorced. That is so hard, because you are a part of a family, and these individuals feel they have to "admit defeat" and publicly admit that their relationship did not turn out the way they wanted. That is the risk in relationships; there is no guarantee that relationships will work, but it is also part of the love and faith that you must have in yourself and others.
Are you in school or working? Do you have friends you can move in with temporarily, or stay with your parents until you can find another place to live? Is your boyfriend paying for your rent, etc? Do you have your own money?
August 8, 2010 - 8:17pmThis Comment
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