Thank you for your opinion. I think that this is exactly what is going on with my boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years and for the first 1 1/2 we were together he would not commit sexually because he needed "variety". However, I soon got fed up and he committed and has not cheated since, we live together and are always together so there would never be a time for him to cheat. I have no doubt he has not cheated. Anyway, in the beginning our sex life was still fine, but in the past few months it has gone drastically down hill. I asked him about it and he just says i dont know. I was wondering, since you seem to feel the same way as my bf, what do you do in your relationship? does your girlfriend get upset about it and do you talk to her about it? I'm not really sure how to approach this, as I have never dealt with someone not wanting to have sex with me before, usually i have the opposite problem. But it is definetly hurting my self esteem and I keep wondering what I did to make him not want me anymore. I think that this could only be answered from a mans opinion! Also, he seems to want to continue the relationship, i have given him several outs and he wants to be with me, which confuses me even more. More advice please!!