In response to you its sounds like he is just comfortable in your relationship and does not feel the need to sweep you off your feet or even please you sexually unless he feels the urge for it himself. Men are like grown boys and they go from there small toys to big ones. Between the internet, playstation, Xbox, cars, etc. They get so involved in there games, hobbies that they dont realize you still need attention or affection. Talk to him with respect and love and tell him women are different then men and need some attention and effection here and there or they do become vulnurable and not that you would cheat on him but becoming vulnerable as a woman is definetly a warning sign and your man should not take this as a threat but as a cry for help and understanding, sacrificing, love, affection, reaching out, etc. Treat your partner the way you would want to be treated I would also add and if he is not interested in sex and you are then, he should at least go down on you, use his fingers, etc to please you. Words are just words until followed with action. A woman can hear "I love you" but if she is not seeing the action then she won't believe he loves her. A man can say he wants to marry you or is thinking about it but if all he does is say this and never backs it up with a ring or any action then it is simply empty words and usually just saying what he believes you want to hear. Men sometimes say they love you or want to marry you to passify the woman especially if there is no sex, it is used to get you off there back from complaining about the lask of sex. Tell him if he wants to marry you and does love you to stop with words and show you. I think your guy is definitly not cheating on you but forgot how to keep you interested in him and the relationship. He better work on this or he will lose you and later regret it. He needs to arrange during the days he is home with you a certain amount of time to just socialize with you and do other things in the bedroom, then he can play his Xbox and be man and have his space without you nagging him, complaining of how your needs aren't meant. You will feel satisfied, loved and most of all you feel that he cares about your feelings, needs, wants. Him telling you he wants to marry will be more believable and there will be more confidence in your relationship and within you and him. Relationships are a job and it takes two to make it work. If one is only trying then it wont work. Remember that so that you don't keep driving yourself crazy. If there is no action (and give it sometime, things dont happen overnight) but if after a while still the same bs then move on, except that you did all you could and that it is not your lose but his. If you state your leaving follow through with it, if he really loves you he will chase you down and win you back. If he does nothing and lets you go and never tries to win you back then you are better off without him and now have made yourself available for a man who will give you what your heart desires and one day you will be happy. Don't fight what you cant control. It is what it is. You can't change him he can only do this but you can change you.
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In response to you its sounds like he is just comfortable in your relationship and does not feel the need to sweep you off your feet or even please you sexually unless he feels the urge for it himself. Men are like grown boys and they go from there small toys to big ones. Between the internet, playstation, Xbox, cars, etc. They get so involved in there games, hobbies that they dont realize you still need attention or affection. Talk to him with respect and love and tell him women are different then men and need some attention and effection here and there or they do become vulnurable and not that you would cheat on him but becoming vulnerable as a woman is definetly a warning sign and your man should not take this as a threat but as a cry for help and understanding, sacrificing, love, affection, reaching out, etc. Treat your partner the way you would want to be treated I would also add and if he is not interested in sex and you are then, he should at least go down on you, use his fingers, etc to please you. Words are just words until followed with action. A woman can hear "I love you" but if she is not seeing the action then she won't believe he loves her. A man can say he wants to marry you or is thinking about it but if all he does is say this and never backs it up with a ring or any action then it is simply empty words and usually just saying what he believes you want to hear. Men sometimes say they love you or want to marry you to passify the woman especially if there is no sex, it is used to get you off there back from complaining about the lask of sex. Tell him if he wants to marry you and does love you to stop with words and show you. I think your guy is definitly not cheating on you but forgot how to keep you interested in him and the relationship. He better work on this or he will lose you and later regret it. He needs to arrange during the days he is home with you a certain amount of time to just socialize with you and do other things in the bedroom, then he can play his Xbox and be man and have his space without you nagging him, complaining of how your needs aren't meant. You will feel satisfied, loved and most of all you feel that he cares about your feelings, needs, wants. Him telling you he wants to marry will be more believable and there will be more confidence in your relationship and within you and him. Relationships are a job and it takes two to make it work. If one is only trying then it wont work. Remember that so that you don't keep driving yourself crazy. If there is no action (and give it sometime, things dont happen overnight) but if after a while still the same bs then move on, except that you did all you could and that it is not your lose but his. If you state your leaving follow through with it, if he really loves you he will chase you down and win you back. If he does nothing and lets you go and never tries to win you back then you are better off without him and now have made yourself available for a man who will give you what your heart desires and one day you will be happy. Don't fight what you cant control. It is what it is. You can't change him he can only do this but you can change you.
September 12, 2010 - 7:45amThis Comment
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