Hi Anonymous,
This it a tough one, I know. You're in college, and you're right, there are a lot of guys out there who I'm sure are perfectly attracted to you how you are. Sex isn't everything, like you said, but it is important, and when it's not working for you, there is an obvious disconnect in the relationship.
If you have tried to talk with your boyfriend, and he's not being receptive and open, then you may want to sit with yourself a while and decide how truly invested in this relationship he is, and what it is you really are in love with. Is it him, or the idea of him? You're also right, that it's not common for a 20 yr old guy to not want to have sex often. When you decide what you need to do, stick to your guns. I guarantee (from personal experience) that one of two things will happen: 1)he will come crawling back and want to be with you, or 2) you will meet an even better guy or guys. Regardless of which way the pendulum sways, try and have the time of your life in college--be safe (study hard), keep your eyes open, and I believe the opportunities should become clear to you.
Hope this helps,
-Christine
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Hi Anonymous,
September 29, 2010 - 12:16pmThis it a tough one, I know. You're in college, and you're right, there are a lot of guys out there who I'm sure are perfectly attracted to you how you are. Sex isn't everything, like you said, but it is important, and when it's not working for you, there is an obvious disconnect in the relationship.
If you have tried to talk with your boyfriend, and he's not being receptive and open, then you may want to sit with yourself a while and decide how truly invested in this relationship he is, and what it is you really are in love with. Is it him, or the idea of him? You're also right, that it's not common for a 20 yr old guy to not want to have sex often. When you decide what you need to do, stick to your guns. I guarantee (from personal experience) that one of two things will happen: 1)he will come crawling back and want to be with you, or 2) you will meet an even better guy or guys. Regardless of which way the pendulum sways, try and have the time of your life in college--be safe (study hard), keep your eyes open, and I believe the opportunities should become clear to you.
Hope this helps,
-Christine
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