Here is a not-so-obvious solution to your dilemma: SPACE.
I do not know if this has been covered in the previous 79 pages of comments but the reason for sexual decline in long term relationships usually has to do with the frequency and consistency of spending time with the other person. The biological reason for a man having sex with a woman is to prevent her from giving birth to a child that is not his. The minimum required for satisfying this goal is around 1-2x per week, which is why most long-term relationships revert to that average level. If you want to increase that average, you have to "trick" the man's body into thinking there is a greater reason to have sex. The way you do this is by not seeing him for prolonged periods of time (1-4 full days per week). Even if you are not cheating on him, his body will perceive the possibility that you have, and will make him want to have sex with you upon your next meeting.
In summary: if you are in a long-term relationship, seeing your partner every day, and watching your sex life drop to zero, change your routine. Give your man a few days of space a week so he can do his own thing and you yours, and watch as he suddenly develops a greater interest in you.
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Here is a not-so-obvious solution to your dilemma: SPACE.
I do not know if this has been covered in the previous 79 pages of comments but the reason for sexual decline in long term relationships usually has to do with the frequency and consistency of spending time with the other person. The biological reason for a man having sex with a woman is to prevent her from giving birth to a child that is not his. The minimum required for satisfying this goal is around 1-2x per week, which is why most long-term relationships revert to that average level. If you want to increase that average, you have to "trick" the man's body into thinking there is a greater reason to have sex. The way you do this is by not seeing him for prolonged periods of time (1-4 full days per week). Even if you are not cheating on him, his body will perceive the possibility that you have, and will make him want to have sex with you upon your next meeting.
In summary: if you are in a long-term relationship, seeing your partner every day, and watching your sex life drop to zero, change your routine. Give your man a few days of space a week so he can do his own thing and you yours, and watch as he suddenly develops a greater interest in you.
October 23, 2010 - 7:06pmThis Comment
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