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Hi Anonymous,
Thanks for your post. I think one thing you can take heart in is that you do have choices. You can decide to stay and work on your relationship--try to get back to that "loving feeling" place. It takes a lot of effort, and hopefully, once you soften your heart and try, your boyfriend will try also. Then the sex should come naturally, unless there is a bigger issue at hand. Otherwise, you can decide to get out. You're dating. I've said it to young women before, it's much easier to dissolve a relationship than it is to dissolve a marriage (and a lot cheaper). Dating is all about finding someone you fit with, and if you find you're not fitting, then you can decide to move on and be alone for a while until that next greatest thing comes along. Life is too short to be wasting time with the wrong guy. That being said, the choice is yours, we can't tell you what to do, we can only "listen," and inspire you to advocate for yourself regardless of what you decide. It's never easy for you, but you can be your own best advocate.
Good luck and let us know how you're doing.