I am male and I don't especially like sex. I place it in the top 10 things in a relationship but not in the top 5.
When I was younger, I had sexual relations almost out of peer pressure because that is what I thought I "should" do. As it turned out, me and my wife both agreed later that we'd rather watch a video and hold hands than have a romp. To the best of my knowledge, she was satisfied with the relationship (she passed away 05/09) and I know I was.
If you haven't done it, talk to your guy about how important (or not) it is to him. I think a lot of women assume that guys always have their libido set on high. That simply isn't the case. He could have closet sex-apathy. It doesn't mean you're unattractive or you're not "doing it right" but what it does mean is that there is a psychological or physical barrier that he has toward having sex. Mine is physical; I don't like the act that much.
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I am male and I don't especially like sex. I place it in the top 10 things in a relationship but not in the top 5.
When I was younger, I had sexual relations almost out of peer pressure because that is what I thought I "should" do. As it turned out, me and my wife both agreed later that we'd rather watch a video and hold hands than have a romp. To the best of my knowledge, she was satisfied with the relationship (she passed away 05/09) and I know I was.
If you haven't done it, talk to your guy about how important (or not) it is to him. I think a lot of women assume that guys always have their libido set on high. That simply isn't the case. He could have closet sex-apathy. It doesn't mean you're unattractive or you're not "doing it right" but what it does mean is that there is a psychological or physical barrier that he has toward having sex. Mine is physical; I don't like the act that much.
December 19, 2010 - 8:32amThis Comment
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