Have you checked out the possibility that there could be undiagnosed Aspergers present with your boyfriend? A rapid decrease in sexual activity, within months of the start of a relationship (or sooner sometimes), is common with this, leaving the non-AS partner feeling quite bewildered (looking for a reason) and rejected. The AS person is often unaware of why they are not interested in sex anymore and they don't intend to cause their partner emotional pain. High functioning undiagnosed Aspergers people are often gentle, kind and intelligent and their Aspergers can go 'undiscovered' until they are in a relationship that makes daily emotional and communication demands on them (including sex) that they find hard to sustain over the medium to long term. Many times it is the non-AS spouse/partner who seeks counselling for the pain of the early and unexplainable emotional/social/sexual deprivation they experience and if the counsellor/psychologist is aware of how undiagnosed adult Aspergers manifests in a relationship/marriage (which not all are), they will bring this to your attention. It may not be this, but it's a possibility worth checking out.
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Have you checked out the possibility that there could be undiagnosed Aspergers present with your boyfriend? A rapid decrease in sexual activity, within months of the start of a relationship (or sooner sometimes), is common with this, leaving the non-AS partner feeling quite bewildered (looking for a reason) and rejected. The AS person is often unaware of why they are not interested in sex anymore and they don't intend to cause their partner emotional pain. High functioning undiagnosed Aspergers people are often gentle, kind and intelligent and their Aspergers can go 'undiscovered' until they are in a relationship that makes daily emotional and communication demands on them (including sex) that they find hard to sustain over the medium to long term. Many times it is the non-AS spouse/partner who seeks counselling for the pain of the early and unexplainable emotional/social/sexual deprivation they experience and if the counsellor/psychologist is aware of how undiagnosed adult Aspergers manifests in a relationship/marriage (which not all are), they will bring this to your attention. It may not be this, but it's a possibility worth checking out.
January 8, 2011 - 4:14pmThis Comment
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