I wanted to add for all those going through this too that I even became one of those people who sell sex toys/products to people at home parties just to try and get the spark back. I had everything that was being asked for from flavored stuff to things that vibrated and dvds/books, and even equipment. This was still not enough to get his attention! I think he is too in love with anime and video games to be able to handle a relationship and understand its a mutual give and take. If a man we love buys us flowers and goes out of his way to make a nice evening for us, we return the favor in bed so...if I'm dressed as your favorite character after serving you your favorite food and we finally have a sitter...DONT disreguard my feelings, tired or not-be nice! dont' remind me of where the vibrator is because you're going to bed, only to find out later that you jerked off in the bathroom when I went to go pick up the kids! Furthermore, if we arrange a hotel room for our first aniversary...guess what, either we're on the same page or one of us should start house hunting in the morning! I suppose since we have no sex in our relationship then we must just be roommates and are going to have to come to some agreement/arragement so the kids aren't hurt..but then again your too little of a man to not involve them and make them feel bad so it hurts me and i feel bad for something completely unrelated. But this is how a passive agressive person fights-they drive you away by making things so horrible and when you try to fix it they claim you're trying to fight. I don't like the person i'm becoming, stressed out, angry, and horrible self images issues. I hope all those like me don't wait for this day...if he doesnt want you, he never will want you the way you want because they dont know how...it's natural or not after the honeymmon period is over and people stop trying to impress eachother. No sex -- leave! You don't want to get pregnant and then feel trapped in a loveless marriage where it feels like your fault or until you cheat. men do go through slumps but to stop all together, if not medical reasons, must mean it's time to move on.
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I wanted to add for all those going through this too that I even became one of those people who sell sex toys/products to people at home parties just to try and get the spark back. I had everything that was being asked for from flavored stuff to things that vibrated and dvds/books, and even equipment. This was still not enough to get his attention! I think he is too in love with anime and video games to be able to handle a relationship and understand its a mutual give and take. If a man we love buys us flowers and goes out of his way to make a nice evening for us, we return the favor in bed so...if I'm dressed as your favorite character after serving you your favorite food and we finally have a sitter...DONT disreguard my feelings, tired or not-be nice! dont' remind me of where the vibrator is because you're going to bed, only to find out later that you jerked off in the bathroom when I went to go pick up the kids! Furthermore, if we arrange a hotel room for our first aniversary...guess what, either we're on the same page or one of us should start house hunting in the morning! I suppose since we have no sex in our relationship then we must just be roommates and are going to have to come to some agreement/arragement so the kids aren't hurt..but then again your too little of a man to not involve them and make them feel bad so it hurts me and i feel bad for something completely unrelated. But this is how a passive agressive person fights-they drive you away by making things so horrible and when you try to fix it they claim you're trying to fight. I don't like the person i'm becoming, stressed out, angry, and horrible self images issues. I hope all those like me don't wait for this day...if he doesnt want you, he never will want you the way you want because they dont know how...it's natural or not after the honeymmon period is over and people stop trying to impress eachother. No sex -- leave! You don't want to get pregnant and then feel trapped in a loveless marriage where it feels like your fault or until you cheat. men do go through slumps but to stop all together, if not medical reasons, must mean it's time to move on.
January 15, 2011 - 1:28pmThis Comment
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