Alison,
Thanks so much for your thoughtful and intriguing comments.... I think you hit the nail on the head when you wrote about the dull boring sex life with a long term partner as well as the fact that this absolutely needs to be added to a relationship that is predominantly healthy, loyal, loving and connected...
You also wrote that you're interested in having increased intimacy and fun with your husband - YES!!! THAT is, in a nutshell, what this experience IS ABOUT for me - that danger zone; that taste of something naughty, and yet, he is WITH YOU AND ONLY YOU - it's almost a miracle... I think at times we underestimate the drive that men have to sow their seed, to prove their manhood - we're so busy nursing our insecurities we forget that even our most committed partners have that drive that kicks in under stress, especially... for a man to even have a little time of feeling that "multiple partner" feeling without engaging with anyone but his beloved can be very exciting.
Also, the sexy stuff I am describing shows women who are honest to goodness women - there are no women of questionable age there.
With the divorce rate as high as it is, I think we owe it to ourselves and our partners to step outside the box here and there - not in a way that feel uncomfortable or threatening to us, but in ways that may just be exciting and different.
I like to think of this experience as similar to a hard-core action movie that my husband may get completely engrossed in. I can appreciate it, but I don't get totally involved as he does. At the same time, it's not really threatening to me because I know it doesn't mean he's going to go out and turn into a spy with multiple weapons and a secret identity -
Anyway, thanks for your comments and, if you do decide to try it - have a blast and let me know what happens!
Aimee
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Alison,
Thanks so much for your thoughtful and intriguing comments.... I think you hit the nail on the head when you wrote about the dull boring sex life with a long term partner as well as the fact that this absolutely needs to be added to a relationship that is predominantly healthy, loyal, loving and connected...
You also wrote that you're interested in having increased intimacy and fun with your husband - YES!!! THAT is, in a nutshell, what this experience IS ABOUT for me - that danger zone; that taste of something naughty, and yet, he is WITH YOU AND ONLY YOU - it's almost a miracle... I think at times we underestimate the drive that men have to sow their seed, to prove their manhood - we're so busy nursing our insecurities we forget that even our most committed partners have that drive that kicks in under stress, especially... for a man to even have a little time of feeling that "multiple partner" feeling without engaging with anyone but his beloved can be very exciting.
Also, the sexy stuff I am describing shows women who are honest to goodness women - there are no women of questionable age there.
With the divorce rate as high as it is, I think we owe it to ourselves and our partners to step outside the box here and there - not in a way that feel uncomfortable or threatening to us, but in ways that may just be exciting and different.
I like to think of this experience as similar to a hard-core action movie that my husband may get completely engrossed in. I can appreciate it, but I don't get totally involved as he does. At the same time, it's not really threatening to me because I know it doesn't mean he's going to go out and turn into a spy with multiple weapons and a secret identity -
Anyway, thanks for your comments and, if you do decide to try it - have a blast and let me know what happens!
May 25, 2009 - 3:03amAimee
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