A "slut" is not someone who "can enjoy sex the way only men are supposed to be able to". It is not an accusation made by a woman who is sexually repressed.
When I see a woman I would call a "slut", I am looking at a woman who seems to lack self-respect, meaning that she is the type to act like a porn star (as in: fake), and degrade herself to please her partner while neglecting her own needs.
Calling someone a "slut" is destructive, but not in the sense you are saying it is, Dr. Klein. This criticism does not sabotage one's own sexuality!
Women should please their mates. But they should actively pursue their own sexual pleasure as well. This seems to be the message you are sending, which I agree with. If I think a woman is a slut, I am feeling bad for her! You seem to think the slut is doing it right, but she is not an example of "healthy adult sexuality".
Women should be comfortable with their bodies! This does not mean women should dress "sexy". Dressing sexy may make a woman feel empowered, but think about it. When a woman dresses like that, she gets a lot of looks from men, many of which are unwanted looks - the women get offended or feel uncomfortable, particularly if the male in question is 'unattractive' etc. And when the looks are appreciated, that is still a woman, being judged by a male, and judging herself by that male's approval or disapproval. If you don't need a man to feel sexy, you should't need lingerie to feel sexy either.
The part about women turning themselves on is a good point though, I do believe. :]
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A "slut" is not someone who "can enjoy sex the way only men are supposed to be able to". It is not an accusation made by a woman who is sexually repressed.
July 14, 2009 - 11:22amWhen I see a woman I would call a "slut", I am looking at a woman who seems to lack self-respect, meaning that she is the type to act like a porn star (as in: fake), and degrade herself to please her partner while neglecting her own needs.
Calling someone a "slut" is destructive, but not in the sense you are saying it is, Dr. Klein. This criticism does not sabotage one's own sexuality!
Women should please their mates. But they should actively pursue their own sexual pleasure as well. This seems to be the message you are sending, which I agree with. If I think a woman is a slut, I am feeling bad for her! You seem to think the slut is doing it right, but she is not an example of "healthy adult sexuality".
Women should be comfortable with their bodies! This does not mean women should dress "sexy". Dressing sexy may make a woman feel empowered, but think about it. When a woman dresses like that, she gets a lot of looks from men, many of which are unwanted looks - the women get offended or feel uncomfortable, particularly if the male in question is 'unattractive' etc. And when the looks are appreciated, that is still a woman, being judged by a male, and judging herself by that male's approval or disapproval. If you don't need a man to feel sexy, you should't need lingerie to feel sexy either.
The part about women turning themselves on is a good point though, I do believe. :]
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